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Don Juan
So. HB asks if you're a player/dj/etc...
What's your best response you can think of?
What's your best response you can think of?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
HB: "Are you a player?"
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"you tryna get played?"
Mike32ct
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"Not really into sports. I was picked last in gym class lol."
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You're welcome.Crissco said:
Newbies should avoid self-deprecating humor like my example, but experienced guys like Crissco can certainly pull it off and get a good laugh out of her.
Might at first glance seem like self-depreciation (which is usually not recommended), but it's not really.Mike32ct said:
You're taking her demand for information and putting it back at her in a humorous way (with the plausible deniability that you didn't know what she was really talking about, even though you both know that you did)..
I think this would work, especially if she knows (or it is obvious from your body) that you are fit and play sports.
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My typical response is a bit different:
"Are you a player?"
"Yeah, I am actually, love doing it... (pause for a second while she wonders did he REALLY say that?)
"Mostly cricket at the moment, but also do football and tennis".
(Modify sports to suit your own life)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PrettyBoyAJ
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When a girl ask me this I just say. I date girls but I wouldn't consider myself a player. Why do you ask?
I'd just be straight up, no bull****tin, and say: "I know how the game works."
You could also ask what her what her definition of a player is, exactly. In order to prevent being put in any slots you don't want to be put in to.
A girl don't know wtf a player is. I don't even know exactly what a player is.
You could also ask what her what her definition of a player is, exactly. In order to prevent being put in any slots you don't want to be put in to.
A girl don't know wtf a player is. I don't even know exactly what a player is.