"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Haven't screwed it up yet
- Thread starter DJoneday
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Tomorrow, walk right up to her and ask her out.
Has she shown interest in you?
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Wait until after your birthday....if she's coming to your party and she has a great time, maybe she will think differently of you.
EDIT: Take advantage of that "lil" bus ride.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Asking her out is not saying you like her. It implies that you have interest and wish to become better friends with her.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TinyFzzyKiwi
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I think i know the answer but want to be sure.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
If she's not willing right now, forget her. You're a busy man; you don't have time for some broad to decide whether or not SHE'LL go out with you. Open your eyes, man: the ball is in her court.
Since this game isn't going anywhere, just play with her words.
"Don't worry, I'm not ready for a relationship either. Shall we just pretend that we never met?"
Make her seem like she's losing an arm by not going out with you.
"Well, we would have had a great time, but....."
Start a new thread.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
If she wasn't laughing histerically, it's over. She's not very interested so nothing will happen anyway.
She still want's to talk to you, and have you sit next to her? She want's you as a friend....
....you can still be her friend, but I'm not sure if this is leading to anything bigger.