"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Haven't screwed it up yet
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Tomorrow, walk right up to her and ask her out.
Has she shown interest in you?
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Wait until after your birthday....if she's coming to your party and she has a great time, maybe she will think differently of you.
EDIT: Take advantage of that "lil" bus ride.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Asking her out is not saying you like her. It implies that you have interest and wish to become better friends with her.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
TinyFzzyKiwi
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I think i know the answer but want to be sure.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
If she's not willing right now, forget her. You're a busy man; you don't have time for some broad to decide whether or not SHE'LL go out with you. Open your eyes, man: the ball is in her court.
Since this game isn't going anywhere, just play with her words.
"Don't worry, I'm not ready for a relationship either. Shall we just pretend that we never met?"
Make her seem like she's losing an arm by not going out with you.
"Well, we would have had a great time, but....."
Start a new thread.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
If she wasn't laughing histerically, it's over. She's not very interested so nothing will happen anyway.
She still want's to talk to you, and have you sit next to her? She want's you as a friend....
....you can still be her friend, but I'm not sure if this is leading to anything bigger.