Has going ghost/nc ever worked for you?

[Dhoulmagus]

Has it?

 

[dustmuffin]

Has it?

Yes....it has kept me sane after a breakup. I didn't do it to get her back. I did it for me to keep my sanity.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Yes, made the difference between getting my mental healh and independence back again, and keep on being a little needy ****.

 

[Trump]

Has it?

I have never understood the advice "No Contact." If she tells you to go to hell, why would you even think of calling her back? If she sleeps with another guy, why would you even think of calling her back? Isn't it common sense?

When we have to act in a certain way because of a girl/to win a girl/to win a girl back/to impress a girl, we have already LOST the game.

 

[cola]

No contact isn't a form of passive aggressiveness to get a girl to rethink things by punishing her with a lack of your presence.

Its you pulling the draw strings saying:
You know what, I'm putting in more than I'm getting. I'm worth more and I'm going to forget this person and spend the time I was allocating to them on somebody/something more worthy.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

spend the time I was allocating to them on somebody/something more worthy.

preferably on yourself. There's a saying in Spain "una mancha con otra se quita", it means something like "a stain gets out with another stain", and that's not a saying I want to live by. Stains are stains, you look better without them.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Yes.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Well the girl didn't commit either of those things, so I don't have any motive to cease all contact. I pulled a mongol approach, by giving her a little more attention than usual yesterday, and I will ghost her from here on out. If I don't hear from her then oh well lol because I'm talking to another girl now lol.

 

[Dingo]

The tough one is when you cannot go totally NC.... You work together or you are in the same social circle. You got to tough it out and never let them see you sweat.

Adapt, Improvise and Overcome.

 

[EyeBRollin]

It always "works" because it is about you, not her.

If someone slams the door in your face, you walk in the other direction. You don't keep trying. No contact is obvious.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I went no contact on my ex-girlfriend after she moved out of my house. She began calling me non-stop a few days later and begged me to take her back. I think she was shocked by my nonchalant attitude towards the whole thing and the fact that I didn't chase her after the breakup. No Contact isn't meant to win someone over. It's meant to help you cut ties with someone in which you have an unhealthy attachment to.

 

[SeymourCake]

The purpose of NC is not to get back with the person, but to allow yourself to get over that person. NC is not some sort of technique to play mind-games with the girl. It's for you to move on to better things in life.

 

[fastlife]

No contact isn't a form of passive aggressiveness to get a girl to rethink things by punishing her with a lack of your presence.

Not necessarily. I do it to maintain balance and emotional independence. It breaks any mental patterns & conceptions & expectations she may try to hold against you later.

Blatant disrespect is one thing. Losing frame is another--that's on me and I'll take whatever time I need to fulfill myself before reentering that interaction from a better place.

But to answer the OP, yes. I have a 100% success rate on girls I've ghosted for 2 or more months. It's an effective reset and those girls are among the most compliant and respectful and least demanding I have on deck (regardless of the flavor of the initial interaction)--they know I can walk away and only come back because I want to.

 

[zinc4]

Yes, tons of success. I never had to deal with any of them again.

 

[ubercat]

I spent a bit too much time shacked up with nursie before she buggered off to China. 2 weeks NC so far. I'll leave the ball in her court. In the meantime I have an Aussie girl lined up tonight oh well some days you have to eat hamburger. And a Vietnamese girl lined up for next week. I really like Nursie but SS has taught me nothing good comes of sacrificing frame.

 

[Floydispink01]

Girl I dated a couple of months back randomly texted me out of the blue yesterday telling me she's sorry and wants to see me again after ignoring my advances back then.

Didn't chase her once. Just went about my life.

Maybe No Contact screams out loud to them. Who knows. Who cares. I might set up a meet with her again, I may not. It's a nice attitude to have.

 

[GS750]

Yes, tons of success. I never had to deal with any of them again.

This is the best answer

 

[RangerMIke]

No contact is cinching up the trash bag and tossing it in the dump. It's not a technique it's what you do when you are finished with a woman.

Do some women come back after I've moved on? Sure, but it's not that many. Most women that reach back out to me I ignore

 

[Uncharted]

Yes worked great for me. About 6 months ago I deleted her number and all social media. Havent heard from the girl since and could not care less. She was a cancer that was wrecking my life.

 

[wifehunter]

Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor