Dhoulmagus
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Has it?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Has going ghost/nc ever worked for you?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
dustmuffin
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Yes....it has kept me sane after a breakup. I didn't do it to get her back. I did it for me to keep my sanity.
CuddleJunkie
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Yes, made the difference between getting my mental healh and independence back again, and keep on being a little needy ****.
I have never understood the advice "No Contact." If she tells you to go to hell, why would you even think of calling her back? If she sleeps with another guy, why would you even think of calling her back? Isn't it common sense?
When we have to act in a certain way because of a girl/to win a girl/to win a girl back/to impress a girl, we have already LOST the game.
No contact isn't a form of passive aggressiveness to get a girl to rethink things by punishing her with a lack of your presence.
Its you pulling the draw strings saying:
You know what, I'm putting in more than I'm getting. I'm worth more and I'm going to forget this person and spend the time I was allocating to them on somebody/something more worthy.
Its you pulling the draw strings saying:
You know what, I'm putting in more than I'm getting. I'm worth more and I'm going to forget this person and spend the time I was allocating to them on somebody/something more worthy.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
CuddleJunkie
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preferably on yourself. There's a saying in Spain "una mancha con otra se quita", it means something like "a stain gets out with another stain", and that's not a saying I want to live by. Stains are stains, you look better without them.
Maximus Rex
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Yes.
Dhoulmagus
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Well the girl didn't commit either of those things, so I don't have any motive to cease all contact. I pulled a mongol approach, by giving her a little more attention than usual yesterday, and I will ghost her from here on out. If I don't hear from her then oh well lol because I'm talking to another girl now lol.
EyeBRollin
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It always "works" because it is about you, not her.
If someone slams the door in your face, you walk in the other direction. You don't keep trying. No contact is obvious.
If someone slams the door in your face, you walk in the other direction. You don't keep trying. No contact is obvious.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dust 2 Dust
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I went no contact on my ex-girlfriend after she moved out of my house. She began calling me non-stop a few days later and begged me to take her back. I think she was shocked by my nonchalant attitude towards the whole thing and the fact that I didn't chase her after the breakup. No Contact isn't meant to win someone over. It's meant to help you cut ties with someone in which you have an unhealthy attachment to.
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The purpose of NC is not to get back with the person, but to allow yourself to get over that person. NC is not some sort of technique to play mind-games with the girl. It's for you to move on to better things in life.
Not necessarily. I do it to maintain balance and emotional independence. It breaks any mental patterns & conceptions & expectations she may try to hold against you later.
Blatant disrespect is one thing. Losing frame is another--that's on me and I'll take whatever time I need to fulfill myself before reentering that interaction from a better place.
But to answer the OP, yes. I have a 100% success rate on girls I've ghosted for 2 or more months. It's an effective reset and those girls are among the most compliant and respectful and least demanding I have on deck (regardless of the flavor of the initial interaction)--they know I can walk away and only come back because I want to.
I spent a bit too much time shacked up with nursie before she buggered off to China. 2 weeks NC so far. I'll leave the ball in her court. In the meantime I have an Aussie girl lined up tonight oh well some days you have to eat hamburger. And a Vietnamese girl lined up for next week. I really like Nursie but SS has taught me nothing good comes of sacrificing frame.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Floydispink01
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Girl I dated a couple of months back randomly texted me out of the blue yesterday telling me she's sorry and wants to see me again after ignoring my advances back then.
Didn't chase her once. Just went about my life.
Maybe No Contact screams out loud to them. Who knows. Who cares. I might set up a meet with her again, I may not. It's a nice attitude to have.
Didn't chase her once. Just went about my life.
Maybe No Contact screams out loud to them. Who knows. Who cares. I might set up a meet with her again, I may not. It's a nice attitude to have.
GS750
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This is the best answer
RangerMIke
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No contact is cinching up the trash bag and tossing it in the dump. It's not a technique it's what you do when you are finished with a woman.
Do some women come back after I've moved on? Sure, but it's not that many. Most women that reach back out to me I ignore
Do some women come back after I've moved on? Sure, but it's not that many. Most women that reach back out to me I ignore
Uncharted
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Yes worked great for me. About 6 months ago I deleted her number and all social media. Havent heard from the girl since and could not care less. She was a cancer that was wrecking my life.
wifehunter
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.