"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Has anyone here ever gotten back with an ex who cheated on them
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dash Riprock
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If it was a committed relationship and she made the choice to cheat, NEVER get back as it will happen again--guaranteed. Plus, you'll always wonder who she's with, etc. It's also a huge hit to your self esteem; that your gf or wife willingly chose to f*ck another man over you.
If you do get back, mind as well get a tattoo also - "Doormat" for your forehead.
Good luck my friend.
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Like @HankMoody said, we are always subconsciously "training" people how to treat us.
If you take back somebody that did the aforementioned things to you, you're only "training" them (subconsciously) that their actions are in fact welcome, which is why they will DEFINITELY do it again, sooner or later.
But, if you kick them out of your life for good, that'll "train" them to know that their actions were unforgivable and that they were punished by crossing the fvcking line. And it's only good for themselves in terms of personal growth.
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The interesting thing about trust and respect is that it takes a lot of time to build both but takes a second to be destroyed. And once destroyed, it is unrepairable.
The only respect you have left with is self-respect but you need to exercise it by removing yourself from that person. Forever.
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No second chances. If they blew their one and only chance, then they are history.
Giving a cheater a second chance is not only rewarding bad behaviour, it is loading the gun for a killer to shoot you, after they already tried to shoot you and missed.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dash Riprock
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Good post, my friend. Thanks for sharing. If it's any consequence, Marshawn Lynch loves Skittles too.
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In ending my marriage, I walked away before she could. But I knew she would have. I think her resentment is/was that I beat her to the punch.
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If you don't mind, could you please elaborate the reason you walked away from you marriage? She cheated? Punched you in the face? Sh!t on your food?
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You want to be happy? You will be. With someone else.
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I have my reasons and I 'm not going to share them here
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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There was an ex that I banged a few more times after I kicked her out. I never let her come back to live with me though because I no longer trusted her.