You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
shaunuk said:The format for the 20-rep squat goes like this:
You take a weight you can only comfortably squat for 10reps, then once you finish your 10th rep (which should be reasonably hard), you pause at the top, taking a few deep breaths, for as long as is necessary for you to pump out the next rep. Then do it again. By time you get to 15reps you should be begging for mercy, and your 20th rep should take a lot to get out.
Once you get past your 10th rep, *only focus on getting ONE more rep*. Then after that rep, focus on the next one. The idea is, you keep up this positive mindset until you make all the reps, or at least 15
Although a true widowmaker is a 20rep squat with a weight you'd use for 10 reps, it's still ok for beginners (like me) to do high rep squatting (i.e. 25 reps) with a lighter weight, but such that the full 25 reps are still a challenge. That's probably a gentle introduction to high rep squatting, and there's still some benefit to it
-shaun