You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
shaunuk said:The format for the 20-rep squat goes like this:
You take a weight you can only comfortably squat for 10reps, then once you finish your 10th rep (which should be reasonably hard), you pause at the top, taking a few deep breaths, for as long as is necessary for you to pump out the next rep. Then do it again. By time you get to 15reps you should be begging for mercy, and your 20th rep should take a lot to get out.
Once you get past your 10th rep, *only focus on getting ONE more rep*. Then after that rep, focus on the next one. The idea is, you keep up this positive mindset until you make all the reps, or at least 15
Although a true widowmaker is a 20rep squat with a weight you'd use for 10 reps, it's still ok for beginners (like me) to do high rep squatting (i.e. 25 reps) with a lighter weight, but such that the full 25 reps are still a challenge. That's probably a gentle introduction to high rep squatting, and there's still some benefit to it
-shaun