Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
shaunuk said:The format for the 20-rep squat goes like this:
You take a weight you can only comfortably squat for 10reps, then once you finish your 10th rep (which should be reasonably hard), you pause at the top, taking a few deep breaths, for as long as is necessary for you to pump out the next rep. Then do it again. By time you get to 15reps you should be begging for mercy, and your 20th rep should take a lot to get out.
Once you get past your 10th rep, *only focus on getting ONE more rep*. Then after that rep, focus on the next one. The idea is, you keep up this positive mindset until you make all the reps, or at least 15
Although a true widowmaker is a 20rep squat with a weight you'd use for 10 reps, it's still ok for beginners (like me) to do high rep squatting (i.e. 25 reps) with a lighter weight, but such that the full 25 reps are still a challenge. That's probably a gentle introduction to high rep squatting, and there's still some benefit to it
-shaun