You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
shaunuk said:The format for the 20-rep squat goes like this:
You take a weight you can only comfortably squat for 10reps, then once you finish your 10th rep (which should be reasonably hard), you pause at the top, taking a few deep breaths, for as long as is necessary for you to pump out the next rep. Then do it again. By time you get to 15reps you should be begging for mercy, and your 20th rep should take a lot to get out.
Once you get past your 10th rep, *only focus on getting ONE more rep*. Then after that rep, focus on the next one. The idea is, you keep up this positive mindset until you make all the reps, or at least 15
Although a true widowmaker is a 20rep squat with a weight you'd use for 10 reps, it's still ok for beginners (like me) to do high rep squatting (i.e. 25 reps) with a lighter weight, but such that the full 25 reps are still a challenge. That's probably a gentle introduction to high rep squatting, and there's still some benefit to it
-shaun