Dhoulmagus
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This girl pretty much told me to hit her up when she I have free time. Is it a trap?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Has a girl ever told you to ask her out
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Redwood
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Elaborate more please on this path of least resistance.
Dhoulmagus
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I left town this weekend and she got hurt by it. Didnt even tell her I was because it's none of her business. She asked me when I got back and to ask her out whenever I had free time.Redwood said:
Dhoulmagus said:
unless you hit her ignore the hurt part, its up to you really, maybe she want to hang out with you or just said by reflex.
thing is what you want to do? then do it be calling ehr and asking her out or not
I would NEVER ask out a girl "on command." If she's telling me to call her and ask her out, my response is "Sounds like you *really* want to see me. When are you free to get together?"
If she gives you any $hit for not specifically calling her to ask her out formally, you call her on it. "Look, honey, YOU want to see ME. We can set up something now or you can reach out later and we can set something up then."
I for one, would resist any attempt by a woman to have me specifically call to ask her out as if by some script, in order to validate her insecurities and make her feel like she's being courted. Huge red flag.
If she gives you any $hit for not specifically calling her to ask her out formally, you call her on it. "Look, honey, YOU want to see ME. We can set up something now or you can reach out later and we can set something up then."
I for one, would resist any attempt by a woman to have me specifically call to ask her out as if by some script, in order to validate her insecurities and make her feel like she's being courted. Huge red flag.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
it can be possible but more like friendly banther or just reflex, since anything who can happen now depends on him its up to him if he calls her or not if he want go ahead and call her if not wait her give any signal.mangotot said:
I consider it like you meet a old friend you don't see for a long time and both of you says we should do something together to remember the old times and you agree and says you noth should and invite teh old gang, in the end never did happen. that is what I see here, but it don't make him to try, asking someone out shouldn't be hard