Dhoulmagus
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This girl pretty much told me to hit her up when she I have free time. Is it a trap?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Has a girl ever told you to ask her out
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Redwood
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Elaborate more please on this path of least resistance.
Dhoulmagus
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I left town this weekend and she got hurt by it. Didnt even tell her I was because it's none of her business. She asked me when I got back and to ask her out whenever I had free time.Redwood said:
Dhoulmagus said:
unless you hit her ignore the hurt part, its up to you really, maybe she want to hang out with you or just said by reflex.
thing is what you want to do? then do it be calling ehr and asking her out or not
I would NEVER ask out a girl "on command." If she's telling me to call her and ask her out, my response is "Sounds like you *really* want to see me. When are you free to get together?"
If she gives you any $hit for not specifically calling her to ask her out formally, you call her on it. "Look, honey, YOU want to see ME. We can set up something now or you can reach out later and we can set something up then."
I for one, would resist any attempt by a woman to have me specifically call to ask her out as if by some script, in order to validate her insecurities and make her feel like she's being courted. Huge red flag.
If she gives you any $hit for not specifically calling her to ask her out formally, you call her on it. "Look, honey, YOU want to see ME. We can set up something now or you can reach out later and we can set something up then."
I for one, would resist any attempt by a woman to have me specifically call to ask her out as if by some script, in order to validate her insecurities and make her feel like she's being courted. Huge red flag.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
it can be possible but more like friendly banther or just reflex, since anything who can happen now depends on him its up to him if he calls her or not if he want go ahead and call her if not wait her give any signal.mangotot said:
I consider it like you meet a old friend you don't see for a long time and both of you says we should do something together to remember the old times and you agree and says you noth should and invite teh old gang, in the end never did happen. that is what I see here, but it don't make him to try, asking someone out shouldn't be hard