"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hair Styles?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Tha Realnezz
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Spookey
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go to a salon and tell them you want your hair changed, they will ask how you want it done. ask if they have any books. ask them what the fashions are.
my tip is dont follow the fashions to a T, you dont want to be a clone of ever other guy out there, you want to stand out from the crowd and show you are a man and are confident and not afraid to be different
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The_Lifter
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http://mensfashion.about.com/od/goominghair/ss/?once=true&
Not much, but it's something.
I think something like this works for most at the moment:
seanchai
Master Don Juan
http://www.bbc.co.uk/6music/events/hub/media/pw7.jpg
I don't look like anyone but Paul Weller.
coolguy676767
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I never like to insult anybody and try to be as nice as I can on here, but that is seriously one of the worst haircut styles I have ever seen. I mean really, its that bad in my opinion.
I think that the hair tells alot about a person, and people who have boring haircuts are instantly being judged by me as boring people. I'm not saying you should have crazy hair, but I think it's a good idea to have a cool haircut that stands out from the crowd.
I've always had hairstyles that draws attention. This results in more people remembering me, and due to the fact that I'm very good at social settings, i tend to expand my social circle very easily. This gives me alot of social proof.
Currently I'm cut like this: In the front it almost covers my eyes, while it's messy and busty on top and in the back. On the sides I comb it close to my head and I feel like it's a great look for me. I have it all bleeched. Like really blond. Everyone says I look swedish, but i take it as a compliment
I hate looking like everyone else......"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
coolguy676767
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Its great that you have such a good attitude. I guess you cant take too much consideration into my opinion, because as far as style and fashion goes I am more traditional I you have to take that into account to.
But hey who cares if I like it as long as the girls like it, props to you if it works for you.
seanchai,wow Iam impressed you response to coolguy's comment was very subtle and don jaun of you. By the way what kind of chicks do you pull?
I cut my own hair, and I do a grade 1 all over.
My hair has NEVER been an issue when attracting women. So don't think about it too much guy.
The_Lifter
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http://img226.imageshack.us/img226/7086/337qp.jpg
http://img308.imageshack.us/img308/8720/dbmanu6036mn.jpg
It was amazing, I had girls opening me to compliment me on my hair, which made the hour or so I spent perfecting it a little less troublesome. Eventually it just became too much work. First I grew it long, like him and wore a hairband - yeah - a hairband. Eventually I just said "**** it" and grade 4'd the SOB. I now have it in the same style as the above, without the bleaching.
Magnatolia
Don Juan
Cheers
J
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.