i know when attracting a girl, youre not supposed to always give her what she wants, tease her, dont be a wuss, etc. one of my buddies is going after this girl and all he does is kiss her ass, does everything she says, responds to her texts within 30 seconds, you get what im sayin. i just found out recently that the girl is thinking about giving him a chance. this goes completely against everything thats said in these forums. whats going on here?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
guy kisses her a$$ and she gives him a chance?
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
Rollo would say "You cannot negotiate desire." That's what they're doing.
And the story ends in more confusion and despair for your AFC buddy.
Each man in his own good time.
And the story ends in more confusion and despair for your AFC buddy.
Each man in his own good time.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
ONCE she's sucked him dry of all the compliments and built her ego up to new heights,she'll drop him because she can do better
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
There are exc eptions to everything. 95% of human beings land a girl being AFC. It works. Its just that our way will yield better results. This guy will get walked all over, assuming the ass kissing isnt strategically part of his game. It can totally work if done correctly, and not a genuine supplication. Or maybe the girl is temporarily in the mood for that kind of dude. Doesnt matter.
There are no hard and fast rules to the game. The game is there to stop YOU from selling yourself out for a woman. Will AFC get girls? Yes. Would you want to be that guy? Probably not...you'll probably fill like you are betraying yourself. Earl Nightingale said success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. It doesn't matter how the next man gets his success...its how you get yours that matters. If you don't consider that route successful, then don't go that route. Define your own success and do the work to get to it.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
DUKE, your brief assessment here is not nearly enough to go on. I know fat girls who would wait in line for a guy to dote on them like this - doesn't mean you'd want to ƒuck them. You also mention that "she's thinking about giving him a chance", this implies she has frame control from the beginning. She has yet to grace his supplications with the precious, priceless gift of her intimacy. Women love worshipers, they just hate sleeping with them.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
zekko
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Of course she's giving him a chance. Wouldn't you like some chick to kiss your ass all the time (if she was hot)? As long as the guy has some decent value/status, she's going to get a huge ego boost out of it. But the thing is, she most likely will not respect him, and you get the feeling this could end badly.
But like horaholic says, 95% of guys probably land girls by being AFCs. And don't forget, women usually end up marrying a nice guy. So this shouldn't be a surprise at all. Part of the emphasis on being the "bad boy" is because women respond well in the short term (sexually) to that type of man. And pickup is mostly about one night stands, so that's one reason they tell you to be the bad boy.