i know when attracting a girl, youre not supposed to always give her what she wants, tease her, dont be a wuss, etc. one of my buddies is going after this girl and all he does is kiss her ass, does everything she says, responds to her texts within 30 seconds, you get what im sayin. i just found out recently that the girl is thinking about giving him a chance. this goes completely against everything thats said in these forums. whats going on here?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
guy kisses her a$$ and she gives him a chance?
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
Rollo would say "You cannot negotiate desire." That's what they're doing.
And the story ends in more confusion and despair for your AFC buddy.
Each man in his own good time.
And the story ends in more confusion and despair for your AFC buddy.
Each man in his own good time.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
ONCE she's sucked him dry of all the compliments and built her ego up to new heights,she'll drop him because she can do better
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
There are exc eptions to everything. 95% of human beings land a girl being AFC. It works. Its just that our way will yield better results. This guy will get walked all over, assuming the ass kissing isnt strategically part of his game. It can totally work if done correctly, and not a genuine supplication. Or maybe the girl is temporarily in the mood for that kind of dude. Doesnt matter.
There are no hard and fast rules to the game. The game is there to stop YOU from selling yourself out for a woman. Will AFC get girls? Yes. Would you want to be that guy? Probably not...you'll probably fill like you are betraying yourself. Earl Nightingale said success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. It doesn't matter how the next man gets his success...its how you get yours that matters. If you don't consider that route successful, then don't go that route. Define your own success and do the work to get to it.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
DUKE, your brief assessment here is not nearly enough to go on. I know fat girls who would wait in line for a guy to dote on them like this - doesn't mean you'd want to ƒuck them. You also mention that "she's thinking about giving him a chance", this implies she has frame control from the beginning. She has yet to grace his supplications with the precious, priceless gift of her intimacy. Women love worshipers, they just hate sleeping with them.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
zekko
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Of course she's giving him a chance. Wouldn't you like some chick to kiss your ass all the time (if she was hot)? As long as the guy has some decent value/status, she's going to get a huge ego boost out of it. But the thing is, she most likely will not respect him, and you get the feeling this could end badly.
But like horaholic says, 95% of guys probably land girls by being AFCs. And don't forget, women usually end up marrying a nice guy. So this shouldn't be a surprise at all. Part of the emphasis on being the "bad boy" is because women respond well in the short term (sexually) to that type of man. And pickup is mostly about one night stands, so that's one reason they tell you to be the bad boy.