i know when attracting a girl, youre not supposed to always give her what she wants, tease her, dont be a wuss, etc. one of my buddies is going after this girl and all he does is kiss her ass, does everything she says, responds to her texts within 30 seconds, you get what im sayin. i just found out recently that the girl is thinking about giving him a chance. this goes completely against everything thats said in these forums. whats going on here?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
guy kisses her a$$ and she gives him a chance?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
Rollo would say "You cannot negotiate desire." That's what they're doing.
And the story ends in more confusion and despair for your AFC buddy.
Each man in his own good time.
And the story ends in more confusion and despair for your AFC buddy.
Each man in his own good time.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
ONCE she's sucked him dry of all the compliments and built her ego up to new heights,she'll drop him because she can do better
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
There are exc eptions to everything. 95% of human beings land a girl being AFC. It works. Its just that our way will yield better results. This guy will get walked all over, assuming the ass kissing isnt strategically part of his game. It can totally work if done correctly, and not a genuine supplication. Or maybe the girl is temporarily in the mood for that kind of dude. Doesnt matter.
There are no hard and fast rules to the game. The game is there to stop YOU from selling yourself out for a woman. Will AFC get girls? Yes. Would you want to be that guy? Probably not...you'll probably fill like you are betraying yourself. Earl Nightingale said success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. It doesn't matter how the next man gets his success...its how you get yours that matters. If you don't consider that route successful, then don't go that route. Define your own success and do the work to get to it.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
DUKE, your brief assessment here is not nearly enough to go on. I know fat girls who would wait in line for a guy to dote on them like this - doesn't mean you'd want to ƒuck them. You also mention that "she's thinking about giving him a chance", this implies she has frame control from the beginning. She has yet to grace his supplications with the precious, priceless gift of her intimacy. Women love worshipers, they just hate sleeping with them.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
zekko
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Of course she's giving him a chance. Wouldn't you like some chick to kiss your ass all the time (if she was hot)? As long as the guy has some decent value/status, she's going to get a huge ego boost out of it. But the thing is, she most likely will not respect him, and you get the feeling this could end badly.
But like horaholic says, 95% of guys probably land girls by being AFCs. And don't forget, women usually end up marrying a nice guy. So this shouldn't be a surprise at all. Part of the emphasis on being the "bad boy" is because women respond well in the short term (sexually) to that type of man. And pickup is mostly about one night stands, so that's one reason they tell you to be the bad boy.