Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You start cutting from your baseline. YOU DO NOT WANT TO GO BELOW 1600... and I only put there as an extreme bottom limit. You probably want to get down to about 2000 and only go down to 1600 if you're having a really hard time getting rid of that last bit of fat.Originally posted by semag
Hey D-
quick question....
You know how you say to cut like 8-12 weeks?? When you say to start at your baseline and "progressively cut 200 per week..." Is that where the 8-12 weeks start? Or do you start counting once you hit 1600 cals? Thanks.
1. Negatives should maybe be done once a month TOPS - and only for the last set of the exercise. And only then there are only a few exercises where you can do negatives effectively... Bench, maybe curls ? For bodybuilding purposes - I think it's kind of dubious...but that's just me.Originally posted by AnonymousEmcee
Thanks D,
Your advice is solid, man. I think I'll try and throw at least one more set of sprints in there somewhere.
About trying straight sets, that sounds like a good plan. Should I lift ridiculously heavy, though, in that case? Like 4-6 rep sets or heavy negatives?
awesome cardio.. especially boxing and rowing. I used to row in college so I can vouch for the awesomeness as rowing for cardio work. It's the perfect combination of power and cardiovascular endurance. It's perfect for interval work. The problem is that many gyms don't carry rowing ergometers (the Concept II machines).Also, what do you think about upper-body-intensive cardio stuff like boxing, surfing, or rowing? I feel like that could be a nice addition to my routine and prevent some upper body muscle loss. In intervals, it seems like it'd work...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by numlock
Hey Diesel -- My gym just opened this year, and they have 2 rowing machines. I walked by them for the first time yesterday and noticed that they were Concept II. Do you mind giving us a quick rundown on how to get an effective workout (HIIT?) from a rowing machine? Basically how to use to the damn thing so I don't look like an idiot trying to figure out why the cord is stuck![]()
Dude are you for real??Originally posted by Eltosian
No, three times a week initially. I was losing weight a bit too fast the first week and a half and switched to twice a week, which worked well. Three days a week is a bit too much on the knee joints, and two is more sensible, IMO.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Are you lifting as heavy as you can go? I know I would drop the bar on my toes without an alternated grip. Some people prefer to use talc and wrist straps to keep the bar from slipping out from their fingers.Originally posted by Aztec
By the way, what's up with deadlifts with alternating grip. I just don't see the rationale behind it.
I think it's because you are not allowed to use straps in powerlifting competition.Originally posted by Aztec
By the way, what's up with deadlifts with alternating grip. I just don't see the rationale behind it.
you would pretty much have to figure you out your precise BMR.. that, right now, is pretty much impossible... you can use formulas to estimate, that's about it..Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
is it possible to continue gaining weight but keep the same body fat level?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.