That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You start cutting from your baseline. YOU DO NOT WANT TO GO BELOW 1600... and I only put there as an extreme bottom limit. You probably want to get down to about 2000 and only go down to 1600 if you're having a really hard time getting rid of that last bit of fat.Originally posted by semag
Hey D-
quick question....
You know how you say to cut like 8-12 weeks?? When you say to start at your baseline and "progressively cut 200 per week..." Is that where the 8-12 weeks start? Or do you start counting once you hit 1600 cals? Thanks.
1. Negatives should maybe be done once a month TOPS - and only for the last set of the exercise. And only then there are only a few exercises where you can do negatives effectively... Bench, maybe curls ? For bodybuilding purposes - I think it's kind of dubious...but that's just me.Originally posted by AnonymousEmcee
Thanks D,
Your advice is solid, man. I think I'll try and throw at least one more set of sprints in there somewhere.
About trying straight sets, that sounds like a good plan. Should I lift ridiculously heavy, though, in that case? Like 4-6 rep sets or heavy negatives?
awesome cardio.. especially boxing and rowing. I used to row in college so I can vouch for the awesomeness as rowing for cardio work. It's the perfect combination of power and cardiovascular endurance. It's perfect for interval work. The problem is that many gyms don't carry rowing ergometers (the Concept II machines).Also, what do you think about upper-body-intensive cardio stuff like boxing, surfing, or rowing? I feel like that could be a nice addition to my routine and prevent some upper body muscle loss. In intervals, it seems like it'd work...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Originally posted by numlock
Hey Diesel -- My gym just opened this year, and they have 2 rowing machines. I walked by them for the first time yesterday and noticed that they were Concept II. Do you mind giving us a quick rundown on how to get an effective workout (HIIT?) from a rowing machine? Basically how to use to the damn thing so I don't look like an idiot trying to figure out why the cord is stuck![]()
Dude are you for real??Originally posted by Eltosian
No, three times a week initially. I was losing weight a bit too fast the first week and a half and switched to twice a week, which worked well. Three days a week is a bit too much on the knee joints, and two is more sensible, IMO.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Are you lifting as heavy as you can go? I know I would drop the bar on my toes without an alternated grip. Some people prefer to use talc and wrist straps to keep the bar from slipping out from their fingers.Originally posted by Aztec
By the way, what's up with deadlifts with alternating grip. I just don't see the rationale behind it.
I think it's because you are not allowed to use straps in powerlifting competition.Originally posted by Aztec
By the way, what's up with deadlifts with alternating grip. I just don't see the rationale behind it.
you would pretty much have to figure you out your precise BMR.. that, right now, is pretty much impossible... you can use formulas to estimate, that's about it..Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
is it possible to continue gaining weight but keep the same body fat level?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.