She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You start cutting from your baseline. YOU DO NOT WANT TO GO BELOW 1600... and I only put there as an extreme bottom limit. You probably want to get down to about 2000 and only go down to 1600 if you're having a really hard time getting rid of that last bit of fat.Originally posted by semag
Hey D-
quick question....
You know how you say to cut like 8-12 weeks?? When you say to start at your baseline and "progressively cut 200 per week..." Is that where the 8-12 weeks start? Or do you start counting once you hit 1600 cals? Thanks.
1. Negatives should maybe be done once a month TOPS - and only for the last set of the exercise. And only then there are only a few exercises where you can do negatives effectively... Bench, maybe curls ? For bodybuilding purposes - I think it's kind of dubious...but that's just me.Originally posted by AnonymousEmcee
Thanks D,
Your advice is solid, man. I think I'll try and throw at least one more set of sprints in there somewhere.
About trying straight sets, that sounds like a good plan. Should I lift ridiculously heavy, though, in that case? Like 4-6 rep sets or heavy negatives?
awesome cardio.. especially boxing and rowing. I used to row in college so I can vouch for the awesomeness as rowing for cardio work. It's the perfect combination of power and cardiovascular endurance. It's perfect for interval work. The problem is that many gyms don't carry rowing ergometers (the Concept II machines).Also, what do you think about upper-body-intensive cardio stuff like boxing, surfing, or rowing? I feel like that could be a nice addition to my routine and prevent some upper body muscle loss. In intervals, it seems like it'd work...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Originally posted by numlock
Hey Diesel -- My gym just opened this year, and they have 2 rowing machines. I walked by them for the first time yesterday and noticed that they were Concept II. Do you mind giving us a quick rundown on how to get an effective workout (HIIT?) from a rowing machine? Basically how to use to the damn thing so I don't look like an idiot trying to figure out why the cord is stuck![]()
Dude are you for real??Originally posted by Eltosian
No, three times a week initially. I was losing weight a bit too fast the first week and a half and switched to twice a week, which worked well. Three days a week is a bit too much on the knee joints, and two is more sensible, IMO.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Are you lifting as heavy as you can go? I know I would drop the bar on my toes without an alternated grip. Some people prefer to use talc and wrist straps to keep the bar from slipping out from their fingers.Originally posted by Aztec
By the way, what's up with deadlifts with alternating grip. I just don't see the rationale behind it.
I think it's because you are not allowed to use straps in powerlifting competition.Originally posted by Aztec
By the way, what's up with deadlifts with alternating grip. I just don't see the rationale behind it.
you would pretty much have to figure you out your precise BMR.. that, right now, is pretty much impossible... you can use formulas to estimate, that's about it..Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
is it possible to continue gaining weight but keep the same body fat level?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.