kingxxxman
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Grinding question? When you grind, are you and the girls hips supposed to be moving in unison or should it be like smash smash smash? any vids to learn how to grind?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How the hell are you "grinding" if they never move in unison? Yes, your hips should move in unison, at least every now and then, while grinding. I'm sure there are videos on YouTube you can find.E_Sex said:Whatever you do, don't move your hips in unison... looks extremely stupid.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That guy just straight up annoys me. They are barely even grinding in there. It's more "Look how cool moving my shoulders is!!! Oh yeah, let me dance with her for a second. OK! Back to rolling my shoulders."Blackmm said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm not so sure those are 100% mutually exclusive. There should be a rhythm to grinding, whether your are moving left to right together, in circles together, or more "bumping".kingxxxman said:right so it should be lots of bodily contact and bumping and stuff, not just moving in unison?