"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Grinding

kingxxxman

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Grinding question? When you grind, are you and the girls hips supposed to be moving in unison or should it be like smash smash smash? any vids to learn how to grind?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Whatever you do, don't move your hips in unison... looks extremely stupid.
 

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E_Sex said:
Whatever you do, don't move your hips in unison... looks extremely stupid.
How the hell are you "grinding" if they never move in unison? Yes, your hips should move in unison, at least every now and then, while grinding. I'm sure there are videos on YouTube you can find.
 

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hahaha, smash smash smash sounds smoooooth.

But yeah, that's a good video. Remember, it's okay if you get hard. We all do, they expect you to.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Blackmm said:
That guy just straight up annoys me. They are barely even grinding in there. It's more "Look how cool moving my shoulders is!!! Oh yeah, let me dance with her for a second. OK! Back to rolling my shoulders."

Right there is an example of people that CAN dance just looking absolutely ridiculous. You simply can't dance like that in a bar/club. Not enough space (thank god... I might laugh if I saw that). But.. at least they aren't going smash smash smash!

EDIT: Here is, at least, a more realistic example: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygE-hFXSdos&feature=related
 

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right so it should be lots of bodily contact and bumping and stuff, not just moving in unison?
 

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Interesting videos.

I usually hate going to clubs because I have no idea how to grind.

Sure I can; salsa, cha-cha, waltz, tango, two-step, swing etc. But they don't teach grinding :(
 

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Just push your crouch onto the woman's booty and it'll go with the flow. She'll be in control of the movement, and you're hips will follow.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kingxxxman said:
right so it should be lots of bodily contact and bumping and stuff, not just moving in unison?
I'm not so sure those are 100% mutually exclusive. There should be a rhythm to grinding, whether your are moving left to right together, in circles together, or more "bumping".

Even when you do more bumping or thrusting, there should still be a rhythm that matches up with what she is doing. Your d!ck doesn't need to be stuck in her a$$ the entire time, but I will pay to see a girl stay around a random guy dancing like the one in that first video, in a crowded club.

You can also grind face to face. In this case usually one of your legs is between hers.

Don't forget to let your hands wander a bit :yes: Just keep it sexy, don't go grabbing a handful.
 
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