ElCubanito13
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ok so i got a HB phone number...so im asking how many days do i wait b4 i call her
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I agree that you shouldn't call the next day, 2-3 days is fine. I think the difference between texting and a phone call has a lot to with how well you two know each other. If you go to the same school or something and she already has the impression that you're not a pvssy, then you can text. But, if it was a random cold approach, I really don't understand how texting is acceptable.eaglez1177 said:Just wait a day, not three lol....and you dont have to CALL her ya know, you can TEXT her too. If you get a num, and call a girl the next day, that will come off as being more needy than texting her instead. Texting a girl is more informal and casual.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
yeah it doeseaglez1177 said:Well I personally would much rather text simply because you dont run the risk of having an awkward phone conversation. Im sure some of you have had that before, and it really sucks.
Haha yeah, i had a couple REALLY bad ones last year when I was all caught up in the "texting means you're a ***** so you should call" stuff. Also, I think phone calls have to be pretty short because otherwise you turn into her girlfriend since they have hour long conversations with each other all the time.eaglez1177 said:Well I personally would much rather text simply because you dont run the risk of having an awkward phone conversation. Im sure some of you have had that before, and it really sucks.
Master the art of conversationsageproduct said:Haha yeah, i had a couple REALLY bad ones last year when I was all caught up in the "texting means you're a ***** so you should call" stuff. Also, I think phone calls have to be pretty short because otherwise you turn into her girlfriend since they have hour long conversations with each other all the time.
Haha yeah, that'll make me hate phone calls less.jeffthechef said:Master the art of conversation![]()
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.