ElCubanito13
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ok so i got a HB phone number...so im asking how many days do i wait b4 i call her
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I agree that you shouldn't call the next day, 2-3 days is fine. I think the difference between texting and a phone call has a lot to with how well you two know each other. If you go to the same school or something and she already has the impression that you're not a pvssy, then you can text. But, if it was a random cold approach, I really don't understand how texting is acceptable.eaglez1177 said:Just wait a day, not three lol....and you dont have to CALL her ya know, you can TEXT her too. If you get a num, and call a girl the next day, that will come off as being more needy than texting her instead. Texting a girl is more informal and casual.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
yeah it doeseaglez1177 said:Well I personally would much rather text simply because you dont run the risk of having an awkward phone conversation. Im sure some of you have had that before, and it really sucks.
Haha yeah, i had a couple REALLY bad ones last year when I was all caught up in the "texting means you're a ***** so you should call" stuff. Also, I think phone calls have to be pretty short because otherwise you turn into her girlfriend since they have hour long conversations with each other all the time.eaglez1177 said:Well I personally would much rather text simply because you dont run the risk of having an awkward phone conversation. Im sure some of you have had that before, and it really sucks.
Master the art of conversationsageproduct said:Haha yeah, i had a couple REALLY bad ones last year when I was all caught up in the "texting means you're a ***** so you should call" stuff. Also, I think phone calls have to be pretty short because otherwise you turn into her girlfriend since they have hour long conversations with each other all the time.
Haha yeah, that'll make me hate phone calls less.jeffthechef said:Master the art of conversation![]()
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.