ElCubanito13
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ok so i got a HB phone number...so im asking how many days do i wait b4 i call her
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
got number...how many days to wait????
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
BongDuy
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call her whenever YOU feel like it.
ElCubanito13
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umm....too true man and i see u r in south florida...me 2
War Against Betaism
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I don't get this with people. Who the hell thought of this stupid 3 day rule after you get a chicks number in the first place? You don't wait too long to call her but then again you don't want to call her immediately after you get it either.
eaglez1177
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Just wait a day, not three lol....and you dont have to CALL her ya know, you can TEXT her too. If you get a num, and call a girl the next day, that will come off as being more needy than texting her instead. Texting a girl is more informal and casual.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ElCubanito13
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yea i see u guys' point
I agree that you shouldn't call the next day, 2-3 days is fine. I think the difference between texting and a phone call has a lot to with how well you two know each other. If you go to the same school or something and she already has the impression that you're not a pvssy, then you can text. But, if it was a random cold approach, I really don't understand how texting is acceptable.eaglez1177 said:
Am I wrong?
Hell, I made a thread about this a few hours ago lol.
ElCubanito13
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well we go to the same school n i haven't been a pvssy with her
eaglez1177
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Well I personally would much rather text simply because you dont run the risk of having an awkward phone conversation. Im sure some of you have had that before, and it really sucks.
Tyson420
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One day.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ElCubanito13
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yeah it doeseaglez1177 said:
sageproduct
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Haha yeah, i had a couple REALLY bad ones last year when I was all caught up in the "texting means you're a ***** so you should call" stuff. Also, I think phone calls have to be pretty short because otherwise you turn into her girlfriend since they have hour long conversations with each other all the time.eaglez1177 said:
jeffthechef
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Master the art of conversationsageproduct said:
sageproduct
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Haha yeah, that'll make me hate phone calls less.jeffthechef said:Master the art of conversation
phatboi408
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2 days. day 1 youre too interested.. day 3 she lost interest in you....
and there is texting game which is anytime. but dont over use it, because youll just end up being her texting buddy and wont ever hang out..
and there is texting game which is anytime. but dont over use it, because youll just end up being her texting buddy and wont ever hang out..
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.