She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
you should've asked her what the best water filer to buy that filters out the fluoride the government uses to control the populaceI said precisely:
My friend and I went to have chicken wings at Costco. They came with salad and vegetables...She looked at me funny and ran away. Next thing is the Security came after me.
you won't lose all your friends unless they like the girl a lot more than they like youif you are shooting out of your league in looks in particular there's a huge likelihood she will get extremely offended and do something crazy like this, you have to calculate risk/reward in every situation. At least here you pretty much got the worst case scenario...imagine someone going this crazy in your social circle, you would lose all your friends. I admit though that this sort of overthinking will hurt more than help when it comes to raw numbers.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How old are you?Not sure if you guys know but the supermarket sells chicken wings in North America.
No one buys those.Not sure if you guys know but the supermarket sells chicken wings in North America.
That gibble garble is and how you look is one factor she uses to judge. Add in her mood and who she's with/ who she wants to that mix. Who knows? It's likely she found the OP unattractive. She could've been in a crappy mood.How is she supposed to like you or be interested when you're a random stranger and the first thing that comes out of your mouth is complete gibble garble?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
In northamwrica is rude to ask someones age but if you really want to know u can pm meHow old are you?
I swear, I thought this was common sense. Walking up to someone with strong eye contact asking them strange questions or telling them strange things just screams either craziness or you want something from them (meaning that it isn't authentic).One tip I posted a couple years ago that is nuclear is my "Don't Look" approach. When you see a woman looking around on a shelf at the store, look around next to her and say something like "They always stop carrying the things that I like" or anything else that has to do with shopping. They key is to NOT look at her and to say it as if you're saying it to a guy. This comes across as very non-threatening to her, plus it's easy for a man to do. I am the inventor of this technique and require $1.00 sent to my PayPal account every time it's used, and that goes for all of you reading this!
But seriously, try the "Don't Look" approach. It is amazingly effective and easy to build upon. If you approach more directly, talk about something that is going on around you, not something you did before. That screams out "Pickup" and it also shows a simplistic and contrived way of doing it. If you talk about something that is in your immediate surroundings, it shows that you can think on your feet.
Only if the other person is old. Social skills ought to teach you that. If someone is young, they don't mind.In northamwrica is rude to ask someones age but if you really want to know u can pm me
I think I found one of the OP's long lost relatives....from A Christmas Story...waiting in line...that kid that just said something random...I was in the supermarket and i did an indirect approach, she was not receptive and i moved on....then security comes and says she complained about me on talking to her and he kicked me out. What a *****!
I told security that i didn't do anything and he can look at the videos in the cameras if he doesn't believe me. He told me to leave or I can get in trouble and I left. How could I get kick out of the supermarket for talking to a girl...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"I like Santa"?Just number closed with same opener
Get out there and try that chicken wings line, lads!Number closed again
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.