You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you should've asked her what the best water filer to buy that filters out the fluoride the government uses to control the populaceI said precisely:
My friend and I went to have chicken wings at Costco. They came with salad and vegetables...She looked at me funny and ran away. Next thing is the Security came after me.
you won't lose all your friends unless they like the girl a lot more than they like youif you are shooting out of your league in looks in particular there's a huge likelihood she will get extremely offended and do something crazy like this, you have to calculate risk/reward in every situation. At least here you pretty much got the worst case scenario...imagine someone going this crazy in your social circle, you would lose all your friends. I admit though that this sort of overthinking will hurt more than help when it comes to raw numbers.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How old are you?Not sure if you guys know but the supermarket sells chicken wings in North America.
No one buys those.Not sure if you guys know but the supermarket sells chicken wings in North America.
That gibble garble is and how you look is one factor she uses to judge. Add in her mood and who she's with/ who she wants to that mix. Who knows? It's likely she found the OP unattractive. She could've been in a crappy mood.How is she supposed to like you or be interested when you're a random stranger and the first thing that comes out of your mouth is complete gibble garble?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
In northamwrica is rude to ask someones age but if you really want to know u can pm meHow old are you?
I swear, I thought this was common sense. Walking up to someone with strong eye contact asking them strange questions or telling them strange things just screams either craziness or you want something from them (meaning that it isn't authentic).One tip I posted a couple years ago that is nuclear is my "Don't Look" approach. When you see a woman looking around on a shelf at the store, look around next to her and say something like "They always stop carrying the things that I like" or anything else that has to do with shopping. They key is to NOT look at her and to say it as if you're saying it to a guy. This comes across as very non-threatening to her, plus it's easy for a man to do. I am the inventor of this technique and require $1.00 sent to my PayPal account every time it's used, and that goes for all of you reading this!
But seriously, try the "Don't Look" approach. It is amazingly effective and easy to build upon. If you approach more directly, talk about something that is going on around you, not something you did before. That screams out "Pickup" and it also shows a simplistic and contrived way of doing it. If you talk about something that is in your immediate surroundings, it shows that you can think on your feet.
Only if the other person is old. Social skills ought to teach you that. If someone is young, they don't mind.In northamwrica is rude to ask someones age but if you really want to know u can pm me
I think I found one of the OP's long lost relatives....from A Christmas Story...waiting in line...that kid that just said something random...I was in the supermarket and i did an indirect approach, she was not receptive and i moved on....then security comes and says she complained about me on talking to her and he kicked me out. What a *****!
I told security that i didn't do anything and he can look at the videos in the cameras if he doesn't believe me. He told me to leave or I can get in trouble and I left. How could I get kick out of the supermarket for talking to a girl...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"I like Santa"?Just number closed with same opener
Get out there and try that chicken wings line, lads!Number closed again
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.