Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Whoa... It's scary when the only seemingly viable solution is self castration... Especially when it isn't.....
What do you think?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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absolutealex said:
But see don't you guys think going over there is a bit desperate? I kinda feel like maybe she needs her space.
Needs her space?? Why, to fume over the situation? I don't get this, why do guys choose this as an option? Your dog throws up in the middle of the kitchen, do you leave it in hopes that it will somehow become less messy in a couple of days? Women aren't guys, they don't forgive and forget; they never forget.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Needs her space?? Why, to fume over the situation? I don't get this, why do guys choose this as an option? Your dog throws up in the middle of the kitchen, do you leave it in hopes that it will somehow become less messy in a couple of days? Women aren't guys, they don't forgive and forget; they never forget.
so what viable solution do you suggesT?
 

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absolutealex said:
What do you think?
Well, what do you want from this woman? Do you want a fling or do you want her to actually care about you?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Well, what do you want from this woman? Do you want a fling or do you want her to actually care about you?
I'd say I care about her a good ammount.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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absolutealex said:
I'd say I care about her a good ammount.
Alright, in "specific" guy terms. Do you like her more or less than your car and what do you want from her?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Alright, in "specific" guy terms. Do you like her more or less than your car?
haha good question, but I'd say that I like her more than my car.
 

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absolutealex said:
haha good question, but I'd say that I like her more than my car.
Ahhh, so you're beginning to get interested in her huh? I'll give you a solution in PM...

Sorry fellas.... :p
 
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absolutealex said:
wow, she wants to break up over this
She is sexing (hoing with) another dude!!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you like her more than your car, you've got to be willing to take a risk. The obvious (I mean AFC) route would be to apologize, buy her flowers and tell her it will never happen again.

If you want her back, tell her that breaking up is fine. Tell her "Thanks for opening my eyes to your true colours. Yes I made a mistake but I don't have time in my life for games." Wish her good luck and move on.

If she has any interest in you, she'll be thrown off guard and will likely come back. However by the sounds of thing, she already has low IL and was probably gettin plugged by someone else why you were on vacation.

Chances are if you threw a fit because an emergency came up and she couldn't spend 15 minutes with you, you've probably done a bunch of AFC things in the past that lead to your demise. Its not like you had anything planned and she was sick and you give her grief, you got whats comin to you bud.
 

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What she did was very disrespectful of you.

If she doesn't show you more respect then it is over.

If you are a man you will hand her an ultimatum now!

Don't talk to her until she wants you and wants to show respect toward you.

If she isn't the type of girl that can realize that you were disrespected then leave that hoe and start dating another girl right away.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
She is sexing (hoing with) another dude!!!
exactly.
 

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absolutealex said:
wow, she wants to break up over this
Most women would want to. She wants to cut her losses. It doesn't help that she's sick too. She feels that since she's been treated as if she were alone, she might as well be alone.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Ahhh, so you're beginning to get interested in her huh? I'll give you a solution in PM...

Sorry fellas.... :p
After you gave him the solution she now wants out of the relationship!! What's up with that advice?:rolleyes:
 

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Just remember women don't think, they "feel". So give it a couple days and if she doesn't call you, give her a call and talk about it. Even if you know you are right, sometimes it saves the headache of just letting it be.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
After you gave him the solution she now wants out of the relationship!! What's up with that advice?:rolleyes:
Actually he did something before getting my advice. Anyway, you know how women think when they're sick, it's a little less logical. She's either going to apprehensively try to work things out or she would rather be right and stubbornly hold her ground. Either way, they will both figure out whether the other is able to working out disagreements.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Actually he did something before getting my advice. Anyway, you know how women think when they're sick, it's a little less logical. She's either going to apprehensively try to work things out or she would rather be right and stubbornly hold her ground. Either way, they will both figure out whether the other is able to working out disagreements.
she's going to hold her ground, that is just her style. I ended things for the best.
 
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absolutealex said:
Mainly because, I had just come back from vacation and had not seen her for about 2 weeks and also I was stuck in meetings all day and was not able to make it over until later in the afternoon, which meant I was sitting in traffic for a good hour.
absolutealex said:
We planned to meet up, we're hanging out for about 15 minutes - her best friend makes an international call to her with a crisis. She says it's a really big deal and asks me to leave - I am bothered by this.
There are a lot of red flags here my man -- I don't like the smell of this!!!!!!!!

You haven't seen her in two weeks and you wait one hour in traffic and when you get there she tells you to leave after only 15 minutes?????? Because of a phone call??? HUH????? doesn't make sense!!!!

She talks to others but not you and you were the one gone for two weeks!!!!

The call was from a dude and this is why she told you to ski-daddle - get out!!!

She was getting "busy" with another dude while you were away - you suddenly get into an argument with her and then she erupts and wants out???? HUH???? There is another hidden issue here!!!! Don't be a chump and apologize - you did nothing wrong!!! She is sexing another dude!!!

Why did you argue in the first place? You caught her in a lie??


absolutealex said:
She was having the stomach flu - so there was not much to be done. However, it really bugged me so I brought it up to her and a fight ensued. This morning, she told me that I was really selfish and have not heard from her since.
This has absolutely nothing to do with her sickness - this is a diversionary hor tactic!!!!

Hors always call dudes selfish - this means she is putting the blame on you and is trying to make you be the guilty one for her leaving - don't buy this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She set you up - the argument was a pretext - she had planned on leaving you before you left for vacation!!!

This is a classic hor exit strategy scenario and most dudes don't know this technique unless they know the mind of hors very well!!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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