"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Got in a fight with the girlfriend

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Whoa... It's scary when the only seemingly viable solution is self castration... Especially when it isn't.....
What do you think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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absolutealex said:
But see don't you guys think going over there is a bit desperate? I kinda feel like maybe she needs her space.
Needs her space?? Why, to fume over the situation? I don't get this, why do guys choose this as an option? Your dog throws up in the middle of the kitchen, do you leave it in hopes that it will somehow become less messy in a couple of days? Women aren't guys, they don't forgive and forget; they never forget.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Needs her space?? Why, to fume over the situation? I don't get this, why do guys choose this as an option? Your dog throws up in the middle of the kitchen, do you leave it in hopes that it will somehow become less messy in a couple of days? Women aren't guys, they don't forgive and forget; they never forget.
so what viable solution do you suggesT?
 

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absolutealex said:
What do you think?
Well, what do you want from this woman? Do you want a fling or do you want her to actually care about you?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Well, what do you want from this woman? Do you want a fling or do you want her to actually care about you?
I'd say I care about her a good ammount.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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absolutealex said:
I'd say I care about her a good ammount.
Alright, in "specific" guy terms. Do you like her more or less than your car and what do you want from her?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Alright, in "specific" guy terms. Do you like her more or less than your car?
haha good question, but I'd say that I like her more than my car.
 

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absolutealex said:
haha good question, but I'd say that I like her more than my car.
Ahhh, so you're beginning to get interested in her huh? I'll give you a solution in PM...

Sorry fellas.... :p
 
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absolutealex said:
wow, she wants to break up over this
She is sexing (hoing with) another dude!!!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you like her more than your car, you've got to be willing to take a risk. The obvious (I mean AFC) route would be to apologize, buy her flowers and tell her it will never happen again.

If you want her back, tell her that breaking up is fine. Tell her "Thanks for opening my eyes to your true colours. Yes I made a mistake but I don't have time in my life for games." Wish her good luck and move on.

If she has any interest in you, she'll be thrown off guard and will likely come back. However by the sounds of thing, she already has low IL and was probably gettin plugged by someone else why you were on vacation.

Chances are if you threw a fit because an emergency came up and she couldn't spend 15 minutes with you, you've probably done a bunch of AFC things in the past that lead to your demise. Its not like you had anything planned and she was sick and you give her grief, you got whats comin to you bud.
 

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What she did was very disrespectful of you.

If she doesn't show you more respect then it is over.

If you are a man you will hand her an ultimatum now!

Don't talk to her until she wants you and wants to show respect toward you.

If she isn't the type of girl that can realize that you were disrespected then leave that hoe and start dating another girl right away.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
She is sexing (hoing with) another dude!!!
exactly.
 

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absolutealex said:
wow, she wants to break up over this
Most women would want to. She wants to cut her losses. It doesn't help that she's sick too. She feels that since she's been treated as if she were alone, she might as well be alone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Ahhh, so you're beginning to get interested in her huh? I'll give you a solution in PM...

Sorry fellas.... :p
After you gave him the solution she now wants out of the relationship!! What's up with that advice?:rolleyes:
 

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Just remember women don't think, they "feel". So give it a couple days and if she doesn't call you, give her a call and talk about it. Even if you know you are right, sometimes it saves the headache of just letting it be.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
After you gave him the solution she now wants out of the relationship!! What's up with that advice?:rolleyes:
Actually he did something before getting my advice. Anyway, you know how women think when they're sick, it's a little less logical. She's either going to apprehensively try to work things out or she would rather be right and stubbornly hold her ground. Either way, they will both figure out whether the other is able to working out disagreements.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Actually he did something before getting my advice. Anyway, you know how women think when they're sick, it's a little less logical. She's either going to apprehensively try to work things out or she would rather be right and stubbornly hold her ground. Either way, they will both figure out whether the other is able to working out disagreements.
she's going to hold her ground, that is just her style. I ended things for the best.
 
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absolutealex said:
Mainly because, I had just come back from vacation and had not seen her for about 2 weeks and also I was stuck in meetings all day and was not able to make it over until later in the afternoon, which meant I was sitting in traffic for a good hour.
absolutealex said:
We planned to meet up, we're hanging out for about 15 minutes - her best friend makes an international call to her with a crisis. She says it's a really big deal and asks me to leave - I am bothered by this.
There are a lot of red flags here my man -- I don't like the smell of this!!!!!!!!

You haven't seen her in two weeks and you wait one hour in traffic and when you get there she tells you to leave after only 15 minutes?????? Because of a phone call??? HUH????? doesn't make sense!!!!

She talks to others but not you and you were the one gone for two weeks!!!!

The call was from a dude and this is why she told you to ski-daddle - get out!!!

She was getting "busy" with another dude while you were away - you suddenly get into an argument with her and then she erupts and wants out???? HUH???? There is another hidden issue here!!!! Don't be a chump and apologize - you did nothing wrong!!! She is sexing another dude!!!

Why did you argue in the first place? You caught her in a lie??


absolutealex said:
She was having the stomach flu - so there was not much to be done. However, it really bugged me so I brought it up to her and a fight ensued. This morning, she told me that I was really selfish and have not heard from her since.
This has absolutely nothing to do with her sickness - this is a diversionary hor tactic!!!!

Hors always call dudes selfish - this means she is putting the blame on you and is trying to make you be the guilty one for her leaving - don't buy this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She set you up - the argument was a pretext - she had planned on leaving you before you left for vacation!!!

This is a classic hor exit strategy scenario and most dudes don't know this technique unless they know the mind of hors very well!!!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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