absolutealex
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What do you think?Francisco d'Anconia said:Whoa... It's scary when the only seemingly viable solution is self castration... Especially when it isn't.....
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What do you think?Francisco d'Anconia said:Whoa... It's scary when the only seemingly viable solution is self castration... Especially when it isn't.....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Needs her space?? Why, to fume over the situation? I don't get this, why do guys choose this as an option? Your dog throws up in the middle of the kitchen, do you leave it in hopes that it will somehow become less messy in a couple of days? Women aren't guys, they don't forgive and forget; they never forget.absolutealex said:But see don't you guys think going over there is a bit desperate? I kinda feel like maybe she needs her space.
so what viable solution do you suggesT?Francisco d'Anconia said:Needs her space?? Why, to fume over the situation? I don't get this, why do guys choose this as an option? Your dog throws up in the middle of the kitchen, do you leave it in hopes that it will somehow become less messy in a couple of days? Women aren't guys, they don't forgive and forget; they never forget.
Well, what do you want from this woman? Do you want a fling or do you want her to actually care about you?absolutealex said:What do you think?
I'd say I care about her a good ammount.Francisco d'Anconia said:Well, what do you want from this woman? Do you want a fling or do you want her to actually care about you?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Alright, in "specific" guy terms. Do you like her more or less than your car and what do you want from her?absolutealex said:I'd say I care about her a good ammount.
haha good question, but I'd say that I like her more than my car.Francisco d'Anconia said:Alright, in "specific" guy terms. Do you like her more or less than your car?
Ahhh, so you're beginning to get interested in her huh? I'll give you a solution in PM...absolutealex said:haha good question, but I'd say that I like her more than my car.
She is sexing (hoing with) another dude!!!absolutealex said:wow, she wants to break up over this
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
exactly.Last Man Standing said:She is sexing (hoing with) another dude!!!
Most women would want to. She wants to cut her losses. It doesn't help that she's sick too. She feels that since she's been treated as if she were alone, she might as well be alone.absolutealex said:wow, she wants to break up over this
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
After you gave him the solution she now wants out of the relationship!! What's up with that advice?Francisco d'Anconia said:Ahhh, so you're beginning to get interested in her huh? I'll give you a solution in PM...
Sorry fellas....![]()
Actually he did something before getting my advice. Anyway, you know how women think when they're sick, it's a little less logical. She's either going to apprehensively try to work things out or she would rather be right and stubbornly hold her ground. Either way, they will both figure out whether the other is able to working out disagreements.Last Man Standing said:After you gave him the solution she now wants out of the relationship!! What's up with that advice?![]()
she's going to hold her ground, that is just her style. I ended things for the best.Francisco d'Anconia said:Actually he did something before getting my advice. Anyway, you know how women think when they're sick, it's a little less logical. She's either going to apprehensively try to work things out or she would rather be right and stubbornly hold her ground. Either way, they will both figure out whether the other is able to working out disagreements.
absolutealex said:Mainly because, I had just come back from vacation and had not seen her for about 2 weeks and also I was stuck in meetings all day and was not able to make it over until later in the afternoon, which meant I was sitting in traffic for a good hour.
There are a lot of red flags here my man -- I don't like the smell of this!!!!!!!!absolutealex said:We planned to meet up, we're hanging out for about 15 minutes - her best friend makes an international call to her with a crisis. She says it's a really big deal and asks me to leave - I am bothered by this.
This has absolutely nothing to do with her sickness - this is a diversionary hor tactic!!!!absolutealex said:She was having the stomach flu - so there was not much to be done. However, it really bugged me so I brought it up to her and a fight ensued. This morning, she told me that I was really selfish and have not heard from her since.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.