That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Weighted vest hill climbs...by far the thing that will translate the most in the bedroom that I have ever done and I've done just about everything.
I noticed this with my wife. I’ve lost 15 lbs (unintentionally) this year. Now I look shredded and even better. My wife said I need to gain weight and is trying to get me to eat more junk. She said I need to “look more married.”
Don't fall for that sh!t...
This is common.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yup, they want to lock you in, lower your value with other women and then once they realize you are happy to let yourself go, lose attraction and leave for men in better shape as you become a butterball while they continue working out and staying in shape.
Go with God
Yes, working out is of capital importance. There is nothing that will hurt you more than being an out of shape looking, beer swilling with a gut, couch potato. Physical attraction goes both ways and yes, women do value a man who can protect them. Working out is essential and one of the easiest ways to raise your self esteem / add a few points to your overall attractiveness. Really should be done for oneself but as a nice bonus you get more attention from women. What guy doesn't want that?
Tell that to my Auschwich-body brother who gets the cuties
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's a hole in your game you should work on fixing.
Nah. Props on the 5 hours tho. Longest I’ve gone was 3
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Damn, bro. I dont think we can figure this one out for you.
I was leaning that way too...I mean it's only been like 3 months so far.
That’s long enough man. Give it a shot. Being exclusive is not the same as living together or being married. It’s honestly not even a big deal. If you really do like the girl don’t play these stupid games. If she turns out to be batshvt in a few more months you can just dump her.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
