Sure, that can be true. What upside does he get though for stringing this girl along an extra three months? We have dozens of “plate went cold” / “plate ghosted me” threads here. Sounds like he likes this girl. Please identify the problem. (There might be a future problem isn’t a problem)
She has a couple of flags. One of them is her love-bombing.
Could be she's just the impulsively effusive type, but more likely a narcissistic love-bombing.
Putting the brakes on might frustrate her, but if it does she's the 'instant gratification' type of girl, who tends to be chase satisfaction but never reaches her goal.
There's no harm in delaying the commitment three more months, there's plenty of reasons not to move too fast.
She has a couple of flags. One of them is her love-bombing.
Could be she's just the impulsively effusive type, but more likely a narcissistic love-bombing.
Putting the brakes on might frustrate her, but if it does she's the 'instant gratification' type of girl, who tends to be chase satisfaction but never reaches her goal.
There's no harm in delaying the commitment three more months, there's plenty of reasons not to move too fast.
Choosing to believe it or not is your own decision no skin off my arse brother. I can’t imagine why I would embellish or fabricate the story to begin with. What benefit does it provide me?
It would necessitate me being the type of person who has to question everything that is outside my sphere of experience in order to be able to live with myself, “because like me everyone must be out to screw me over or get one over on me.”
We'll never know if you really broke up with her out of concern for what she'll do with you when she'd be 50 and you 80 or if that is a story you tell yourself and in reality maybe on a subconscious level you felt there was some red flags.
The stories about what will happen in 3 decades if one enters an age gap relationship are what women who are not actually in love or harridans tell. In actuality, it doesn't take much logic to realise that we're all individuals and there are no guarantees in life ... yeah, statistically there's an increased risk of death/illness for the older individual the larger the age gap is, but that doesn't tell you anything about how your life will unfold.
OP this is awesome. It sounds like you guys really vibe. You’re a father are you not? How does she like kids? If you feel you’ve left it all on the field so to speak, no regrets and all that? I would say it’s clear in your writing that you like her a lot. I think this could be something good for you.
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Yeah bro you might be higher than dead zero on the Kinsey Scale. I’m not.
p.s. my resting heart rate is 48 I’m pretty relaxed…unlike those boys with polycythemia, nascent sleep apnea, atrial fibrillation, left ventricular hypertrophy and hypertension secondary to exogenous androgen use.
not gay, just curious - considering he often speaks as if he is a subject matter expert and claims to have carried more muscle than at least myself. Also being a mod that frequents the Health and Fitness subforum, it makes sense to be able to verify his claims.
Not being arrogant here, but it is highly unlikely that he ever carried more muscle than me (my FFMI is about 27). He could shut me up by posting that picture though, but for some reason - he doesn't.
I'm not saying anything in this thread is fake at all, just his prior claims to have been bigger and leaner than me - which he cannot or will not prove.
My assumption is she didn't screen. It's like when you're infatuated with a girl right from the start and walk after her love-drooling.
She'll start to do that when the honeymoon phase is over - and if you two fit character-wise, it'll work despite age gap. So just normal course, only gender-roles are reversed.
I once met a man age ~50, met girl 25, had strong doubts because of age gap as well. Don't know what happened to him. had the impression he was worried what others might think. Dunno if that's exactly what you go through now.
I'm comfortable enough with my sexuality to compliment another man on his physique or good looks. I feel like @BackInTheGame78 may have mentioned at some point why he doesn't post pics. I'm mostly teasing him for posting these hot takes without following an ancient internet rule; pics or it didn't happen.
My assumption is she didn't screen. It's like when you're infatuated with a girl right from the start and walk after her love-drooling.
She'll start to do that when the honeymoon phase is over - and if you two fit character-wise, it'll work despite age gap. So just normal course, only gender-roles are reversed.
I once met a man age ~50, met girl 25, had strong doubts because of age gap as well. Don't know what happened to him. had the impression he was worried what others might think. Dunno if that's exactly what you go through now.
Actually it was kinda the opposite of this. She may have initially liked the way I looked but she quickly found out I was the opposite of the guys she typically dated that were her age and had much more of what she was looking for than they had...
Namely I actually had my life together in terms of career, finances, living situation, car, etc. Plus the ability to have actual conversations on a wide variety of topics with people. Underrated skill to have...there are a lot of women who find that attractive and she is one of them.
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Namely I actually had my life together in terms of career, finances, living situation, car, etc. Plus the ability to have actual conversations on a wife variety of topics with people.
Yeah bro you might be higher than dead zero on the Kinsey Scale. I’m not.
p.s. my resting heart rate is 48 I’m pretty relaxed…unlike those boys with polycythemia, nascent sleep apnea, atrial fibrillation, left ventricular hypertrophy and hypertension secondary to exogenous androgen use.
Lol no, I was diagnosed with hypertension at 30, way before gear. My mom had preeclampsia and I was born at 26 weeks. I'm a miracle so you better respect me buddy.
