"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Got her on a date. Now what?

brad jarry

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I'm in high school btw.
There's this girl that I've been interested in for a few months now. But we never actually talked. It's a story behind that, but she just got out of a relationship. I got her number two weeks ago and talked my way into having a date at the carnival this Saturday. I don't know if she's even calling it a date and I also don't know if I like her yet and vice versa but I'm hoping things change.

What do I do though? This is my first date ever, my first time seeing her and I just want everything to be great (Even though it's going to be SOOOO crowded; like unbelievably crowded)
I'm paying for her ticket and meal afterward (Probably shouldn't have offered now that I realize how much all that'll cost) but regardless, I'm paying for her stuff and mine. We're both shy apparently, well I know I am around new people; so I don't want to screw up.

I was actually hoping to get a kiss at the end but again, I have no clue what to do and how to not be awkward. Can someone help me out? Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Roober

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Present like an alpha
-strong eye contact
-Keep your chest open and face towards her when talking
-strong voice, don't talk like your afraid
-say whatever the fvck you want, but don't be offensive obviously...
-Be a gentleman, not a pushover, but a gentleman

look like an alpha
-clean shaven or whatever is good for you... just make it neat
-dress sharp, it is okay to be better dressed than her, dress to the occasion
-Good shoes! comfortable and stylish

Be an alpha
-DO NOT look at the ground, there is nothing down there. When you walk, walk with your eyesight parallel to the ground
-Make chit chat with other people
-If you want to kiss her, then do it, or at least try
-If any challenges arise, handle them with grace

There's much more, but that should get you started
 
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