"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Got a phone call tonight.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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TurboOverCubicInches
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.I know the type. Some of those college athlete girls like to have their college athlete guy friends protect them. He isn't gonna do anything. Find out where you live? Puh-Leeze! He's probably some guy on the football or baseball team at the girl's school. Not someone who is likely to obtain the resources to find out everything about you. I woulda laffed in his face and said come get me.
Don't worry.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dude this guy is a troll, that orignial post of his was probably fake.. nobody is this dense let the thread dieOriginally posted by TurboOverCubicInches
Did we NOT tell you a few weeks ago this girl was bad news? See. Behold the wisdom of an experienced DJ
I know the type. Some of those college athlete girls like to have their college athlete guy friends protect them. He isn't gonna do anything. Find out where you live? Puh-Leeze! He's probably some guy on the football or baseball team at the girl's school. Not someone who is likely to obtain the resources to find out everything about you. I woulda laffed in his face and said come get me.
Don't worry.
midwestguy
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true. I think he might have been a football player. She is a polite girl and maybe didnt want to laugh in my face when I asked her out? Im 5-9 140ish and ok looking. Guess thats why Im not her type?Originally posted by TurboOverCubicInches
Did we NOT tell you a few weeks ago this girl was bad news? See. Behold the wisdom of an experienced DJ
I know the type. Some of those college athlete girls like to have their college athlete guy friends protect them. He isn't gonna do anything. Find out where you live? Puh-Leeze! He's probably some guy on the football or baseball team at the girl's school. Not someone who is likely to obtain the resources to find out everything about you. I woulda laffed in his face and said come get me.
Don't worry.
midwestguy
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Why is it they dont like it when you smother them? Shes very polite and maybe thats why at first she accepted the invitation. Also I said "do you live far from her" she said no of course and I told her if I could pick her up and shes like "thats ok I can drive myself and meet you somewhere" Does that mean she didnt really trust me??
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Kid-Icarus
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HAHAHAHAHA
I wonder how many people are stupid enough to continue this.
I think Wyldefire made it obvious that he's a troll doing this for attention.
actually anyone who continues giving him sincere advice not realizing he's screwing with our heads, is dumber than he is.... but please continue.. i'm laughing my ass of reading this..
Hey West keep asking questions please.
tmpgstx
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Centaurion
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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You'd at least find out real quick if it was her boyfriend or some a$$hole fronting. If it was a trick she pulled, no guy in his right mind is gonna start beef with a crazy dude to do some girl a favor.
But if not, then just let it go.
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he sounded pretty mean but I think he was full ofit trying to sound big bad.Originally posted by squirrels
Depending on how bad-ass you feel, you could flip the tables...go looking for HIM. Take that, "Nobody threatens my ass and gets away with it!" attitude.
You'd at least find out real quick if it was her boyfriend or some a$$hole fronting. If it was a trick she pulled, no guy in his right mind is gonna start beef with a crazy dude to do some girl a favor.
But if not, then just let it go.
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I really do want her still.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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