Ok I'll keep this short so matched a chick from tinder we went out had a good time she was feeling me up etc. Had a good time she even asked for another date and all of a sudden she went cold and haven't heard from her since. Any one else had this happen?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Good first date then ghost...
- Thread starter Randzilla
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
guru1000
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Yes I do that to women all the time. She has other irons in the fire.
Some of guys have no idea the plethora of options hot women have on OLD. If you’re not “beating” the image of her ex (who dumped her) that she paints in her egotistical mind, you’re not much to her.
You men need to stop investing so much. Make these women work.
Some of guys have no idea the plethora of options hot women have on OLD. If you’re not “beating” the image of her ex (who dumped her) that she paints in her egotistical mind, you’re not much to her.
You men need to stop investing so much. Make these women work.
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Pretty common these days. Unless you banged her on the first date there is no real guarantee of you seeing her again and sometimes not even if that happened.
You should be dating multiple women so this doesn't even phase you.
Also, most guys vastly overestimate how "well" the first date went.
You should be dating multiple women so this doesn't even phase you.
Also, most guys vastly overestimate how "well" the first date went.
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Second place is first loser.
To keep a woman around, you need to come in first and stay in first. When a woman ghosts you, you failed to come in first place.
Like it or not, we're competing heavily for women. You're in competition for a woman no matter how attractive she is.
Never judge how well a first date went. Between your first and second date, she might get that response she was craving from Drake, Lebron James, or Dwayne Johnson.
Worse yet, it only takes one quirk, action, or inaction to get you rejected and ghosted. i.e.
1. Too available
2. Too carefree
3. Not rich enough
4. Prefers Samsung over iphone
5. Don't have social media
6. Cheers for Clemson
7. Texting too little
8. Emotionless
9. Works too much
10. Attends a rival school
11. Plays PS4 over Xbox One
Basically having too much or too little of something can cost you. Also, having something or not having something can cost you.
To keep a woman around, you need to come in first and stay in first. When a woman ghosts you, you failed to come in first place.
Like it or not, we're competing heavily for women. You're in competition for a woman no matter how attractive she is.
Never judge how well a first date went. Between your first and second date, she might get that response she was craving from Drake, Lebron James, or Dwayne Johnson.
Worse yet, it only takes one quirk, action, or inaction to get you rejected and ghosted. i.e.
1. Too available
2. Too carefree
3. Not rich enough
4. Prefers Samsung over iphone
5. Don't have social media
6. Cheers for Clemson
7. Texting too little
8. Emotionless
9. Works too much
10. Attends a rival school
11. Plays PS4 over Xbox One
Basically having too much or too little of something can cost you. Also, having something or not having something can cost you.