Ok I'll keep this short so matched a chick from tinder we went out had a good time she was feeling me up etc. Had a good time she even asked for another date and all of a sudden she went cold and haven't heard from her since. Any one else had this happen?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Good first date then ghost...
- Thread starter Randzilla
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
guru1000
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Yes I do that to women all the time. She has other irons in the fire.
Some of guys have no idea the plethora of options hot women have on OLD. If you’re not “beating” the image of her ex (who dumped her) that she paints in her egotistical mind, you’re not much to her.
You men need to stop investing so much. Make these women work.
Some of guys have no idea the plethora of options hot women have on OLD. If you’re not “beating” the image of her ex (who dumped her) that she paints in her egotistical mind, you’re not much to her.
You men need to stop investing so much. Make these women work.
marmel75
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Pretty common these days. Unless you banged her on the first date there is no real guarantee of you seeing her again and sometimes not even if that happened.
You should be dating multiple women so this doesn't even phase you.
Also, most guys vastly overestimate how "well" the first date went.
You should be dating multiple women so this doesn't even phase you.
Also, most guys vastly overestimate how "well" the first date went.
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Second place is first loser.
To keep a woman around, you need to come in first and stay in first. When a woman ghosts you, you failed to come in first place.
Like it or not, we're competing heavily for women. You're in competition for a woman no matter how attractive she is.
Never judge how well a first date went. Between your first and second date, she might get that response she was craving from Drake, Lebron James, or Dwayne Johnson.
Worse yet, it only takes one quirk, action, or inaction to get you rejected and ghosted. i.e.
1. Too available
2. Too carefree
3. Not rich enough
4. Prefers Samsung over iphone
5. Don't have social media
6. Cheers for Clemson
7. Texting too little
8. Emotionless
9. Works too much
10. Attends a rival school
11. Plays PS4 over Xbox One
Basically having too much or too little of something can cost you. Also, having something or not having something can cost you.
To keep a woman around, you need to come in first and stay in first. When a woman ghosts you, you failed to come in first place.
Like it or not, we're competing heavily for women. You're in competition for a woman no matter how attractive she is.
Never judge how well a first date went. Between your first and second date, she might get that response she was craving from Drake, Lebron James, or Dwayne Johnson.
Worse yet, it only takes one quirk, action, or inaction to get you rejected and ghosted. i.e.
1. Too available
2. Too carefree
3. Not rich enough
4. Prefers Samsung over iphone
5. Don't have social media
6. Cheers for Clemson
7. Texting too little
8. Emotionless
9. Works too much
10. Attends a rival school
11. Plays PS4 over Xbox One
Basically having too much or too little of something can cost you. Also, having something or not having something can cost you.