Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Not necessarily, you could just have them on you to write stuff down. Besides, it looks clumsy if you ask a chick for her # but have to check for a pen for 10 minutes. Anyway, I have chicks type their numbers into my cell, I usually don't go for the pen and paper approach.Originally posted by JasonDH
I dont understand why you would go out with a pen you looking for numbers. Even thou the girls dont know that your going out looking for numbers, having a pen on you kinda shows that your out to get numbers. Am I just a newb or am I on to something?
Thats what I was thinking. A pen just seems to desperate to me.Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
Cell is my approach too... Today a cell is practically a natural thing for anyone and thus it does not seem unnatural.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thats true to, I have this damn nice pen that I occasionally use. But still, I use the cell for most of the time.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Business men always have pens on them and they look professional and classy -- you can buy nice ones for 10 bucks at walgreens/walmart. Not really important to have unless you are on the prowl -- you could meet a girl on the bus or outside walking and what would you do? you don't need paper, just write on your hand.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.