Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not necessarily, you could just have them on you to write stuff down. Besides, it looks clumsy if you ask a chick for her # but have to check for a pen for 10 minutes. Anyway, I have chicks type their numbers into my cell, I usually don't go for the pen and paper approach.Originally posted by JasonDH
I dont understand why you would go out with a pen you looking for numbers. Even thou the girls dont know that your going out looking for numbers, having a pen on you kinda shows that your out to get numbers. Am I just a newb or am I on to something?
Thats what I was thinking. A pen just seems to desperate to me.Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
Cell is my approach too... Today a cell is practically a natural thing for anyone and thus it does not seem unnatural.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thats true to, I have this damn nice pen that I occasionally use. But still, I use the cell for most of the time.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Business men always have pens on them and they look professional and classy -- you can buy nice ones for 10 bucks at walgreens/walmart. Not really important to have unless you are on the prowl -- you could meet a girl on the bus or outside walking and what would you do? you don't need paper, just write on your hand.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.