You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Not necessarily, you could just have them on you to write stuff down. Besides, it looks clumsy if you ask a chick for her # but have to check for a pen for 10 minutes. Anyway, I have chicks type their numbers into my cell, I usually don't go for the pen and paper approach.Originally posted by JasonDH
I dont understand why you would go out with a pen you looking for numbers. Even thou the girls dont know that your going out looking for numbers, having a pen on you kinda shows that your out to get numbers. Am I just a newb or am I on to something?
Thats what I was thinking. A pen just seems to desperate to me.Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
Cell is my approach too... Today a cell is practically a natural thing for anyone and thus it does not seem unnatural.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thats true to, I have this damn nice pen that I occasionally use. But still, I use the cell for most of the time.Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Business men always have pens on them and they look professional and classy -- you can buy nice ones for 10 bucks at walgreens/walmart. Not really important to have unless you are on the prowl -- you could meet a girl on the bus or outside walking and what would you do? you don't need paper, just write on your hand.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.