I saw one of the HB 8.5 news reporters on Bumble. So I'm messaging her on her facebook page. Lets see where this goes.@biggoal why do I need to keep on requesting for something that's good for you?
Furnish those DM's man.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I saw one of the HB 8.5 news reporters on Bumble. So I'm messaging her on her facebook page. Lets see where this goes.@biggoal why do I need to keep on requesting for something that's good for you?
Furnish those DM's man.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm not interested in another subject.I saw one of the HB 8.5 news reporters on Bumble. So I'm messaging her on her facebook page. Lets see where this goes.
So you can't see me getting a date with a local news reporter lol? Why would a high end news reporter need to resort to using OLD? Hey, any chance I get you gotta take. It's a numbers game.I'm not interested in another subject.
Stick to one, settle it then we can move on to the next.
However if its your wish to just blog about ur failures then let us know so that we won't waste our time nor efforts.
R u afraid to show us those DM's you had with that 49 year old?So you can't see me getting a date with a local news reporter lol? Why would a high end news reporter need to resort to using OLD? Hey, any chance I get you gotta take. It's a numbers game.
Here is what I sent the reporter just now.
Soooo, I was just browsing on Bumble and came across you (guess which way I swiped lol) Well anyway, it just makes me wonder why someone like yourself would even need to be using a dating app in the first place! Of course I mean that in a good way though! I'd figure you reporters would have no problem finding someoneWell anyway, I know this isn't a dating app, but it's easier reaching out on here![]()
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No, takes time to copy text messages.R u afraid to show us those DM's you had with that 49 year old?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No, takes time to copy text messages.
Soooo, I was just browsing on Bumble and came across you (guess which way I swiped lol) Well anyway, it just makes me wonder why someone like yourself would even need to be using a dating app in the first place! Of course I mean that in a good way though! I'd figure you reporters would have no problem finding someoneWell anyway, I know this isn't a dating app, but it's easier reaching out on here![]()
How does that friend zone? Wouldn't someone like her go for a super Chad or rich guy anyway? Should I message her again?How to get insta-friend-zone and no-reply on first contact.
This is an unattractive reply/trait for men to possess, a repellant that will hv women dismissing you.No, takes time to copy text messages.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You need to leave this forum.How does that friend zone? Wouldn't someone like her go for a super Chad or rich guy anyway? Should I message her again?
Soooo, I was just browsing on Bumble (a dating app) and came across you (guess which way I swiped lol) Well anyway (I have nothing real to say, comment or try to get your sexual attention), it just makes me wonder why someone like yourself would even need to be using a dating app in the first place! (because I have put you very high on the pedestal) Of course I mean that in a good way though! (because im a fan and so much below you) I'd figure you reporters would have no problem finding someone (but not me)Well anyway, I know this isn't a dating app (actually it is but I dont want to act like im trying to approach you... on a dating app), but it's easier reaching out on here (so if you want to reply i will be so honored but I know you wont... pleaseeeee reply)![]()
Me, theoretically: Nice shirt, it really emphasizes your breasts.For the sake of example, Lets say you are scrolling OLD and see Jennifer Aniston profile:
Jenn A. 50 - Los Angeles
all guys message her (including @biggoal) some variation of:
OMG J.A you are so hot and famous, please go out with me!
YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL
Jeeeze so hot! What are you doing on OLD?!?!
me:
Hi, my name is Mr Wood. I noticed your profile and sweet smile, cool style.
Im near you *L.A right?* Lets get acquainted, see where it goes... what do you say?
Who will she reply to and give it a try?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Asking them let's getting acquainted and out right off the bat scares women off too fastFor the sake of example, Lets say you are scrolling OLD and see Jennifer Aniston profile:
Jenn A. 50 - Los Angeles
all guys message her (including @biggoal) some variation of:
OMG J.A you are so hot and famous, please go out with me!
YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL
Jeeeze so hot! What are you doing on OLD?!?!
me:
Hi, my name is Mr Wood. I noticed your profile and sweet smile, cool style.
Im near you *L.A right?* Lets get acquainted, see where it goes... what do you say?
Who will she reply to and give it a try?
now you are the text opener expert? lol okAsking them let's getting acquainted and out right off the bat scares women off too fast
You'll be prefect to dissect his DM's then.let me add, to the point. My text opener, which is cut/paste for the last year has produced at least 8 of 10 or so lays from last year.
just sayn'
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.