"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Going to meet that cute 49 yr old teacher tonight. How to keep frame?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So are you like exclusively attracted to 50 year old women? Just asking lol
So. That is really pushing it. It's just on old you see a lot more women post wall. Dont see many under 35 on old unless they're white trash and obese. In big cities it's a lot different. Like my hometown lots of normal 30 year olds on it. Down here the decent ones are 38 to 50 range.

I only use old for dating.
 

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49? Why not get a doll like tfm while you're at it lololol? What part of fertility don't you comprehend? Many need fertility treatments at 30.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What else would you use it for?
No, I mean finding girls I only use OLD. I don't meet them out and about. It's mostly old people I see. I certainly don't want a 60 year old. If I did there are plenty of those around here!

Talking to a 44 year old 50 miles away I might go meet in 2 weeks. OLD is all I have to meet women around here and even on there really none in my county hardly. Usually 30 or more miles away.
 

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No, I mean finding girls I only use OLD. I don't meet them out and about. It's mostly old people I see. I certainly don't want a 60 year old. If I did there are plenty of those around here!

Talking to a 44 year old 50 miles away I might go meet in 2 weeks. OLD is all I have to meet women around here and even on there really none in my county hardly. Usually 30 or more miles away.
What about making a youtube video channel? Maybe some women might find you online that way.
 

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What about making a youtube video channel? Maybe some women might find you online that way.
You mean monetize it like that? gotta get a lot of viewers. But a lot of these beta cuck guys have youtube channels and get hundreds of thousands of views. You know, the opposite of what's promoted on this website of how to be a man.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well still have not heard from her since thur. When should I initiate contact?
 

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You mean monetize it like that? gotta get a lot of viewers. But a lot of these beta cuck guys have youtube channels and get hundreds of thousands of views. You know, the opposite of what's promoted on this website of how to be a man.
So, what do you have to lose? You are already beta because you are going after old women who have a low interest level with you. It could only get better from there.
 

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Well... it sounds like you are taking your first step, Biggoal. I think that three months ago, you would have probably cracked and sent her a text.
Congratulations. I mean it.

I can tell you (as many others here) that initiating contact will not help and doing so will only dig a hole deeper.

There's a lot of talk here about one-itus (or however it's spelled). Don't let any of the members here fool you. Everyone here has experienced it at some point. Yes everyone.

I won't turn this into some hen-house of empathy or anything, we've all had something that seemed (or we hoped to be) promising that didn't turn out like we wanted. Just saying that we've all been there to some degree.

I'm congratulating you because you've abstained from making that call or text to her.
Some members here might say that this is elemental, but heII, some folks never learn their entire lives and...
you can no longer be accused of asking for advice and not following it.

If she does initiate contact, you make damn sure you wait at least five hours to respond (if not longer.) If she doesn't initiate, exhale and feel like a man ... because instead of sending some random text, you've taken that first step at not handing over your dignity.
Some people learn the hard way at 18, 35 or 60 and some never learn at all.

If you're learning and practicing in your mid 30's, you are doing better than some folks.
 

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Between a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate her interest level towards you?
Was about close to 7 at one point. Remember she sent me selfies every other day. Even after our first meeting shed send selfies a lot looking all sexy and cute and would text a lot.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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No, I mean finding girls I only use OLD. I don't meet them out and about. It's mostly old people I see. I certainly don't want a 60 year old. If I did there are plenty of those around here!

Talking to a 44 year old 50 miles away I might go meet in 2 weeks. OLD is all I have to meet women around here and even on there really none in my county hardly. Usually 30 or more miles away.
If there r kindergartens, primary schools, secondary school, colleges etc in ur state or district then there's definitely a good number of females of all ages roaming around.
 

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If there r kindergartens, primary schools, secondary school, colleges etc in ur state or district then there's definitely a good number of females of all ages roaming around.
They're not on OLD in this county or the next county over and when I'm out and about I certainly don't see them. A lot of them move here and are already married. So you mean hangout by the schools and be a creep LOL.

Because if I look at places like Miami, Orlando there are lots of single, and decent looking pre wall women on OLD. Around here I set searches to 50 miles and it's mostly post wall.

Remember, the median age for my county is 56 and the city I live in is 66. The larger county to my north the median age is 55 as well.

If you're a widow or single and 65 you will clean up big time down here in person.
 

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They're not on OLD in this county or the next county over and when I'm out and about I certainly don't see them. A lot of them move here and are already married. So you mean hangout by the schools and be a creep LOL.

Because if I look at places like Miami, Orlando there are lots of single, and decent looking pre wall women on OLD. Around here I set searches to 50 miles and it's mostly post wall.

Remember, the median age for my county is 56 and the city I live in is 66. The larger county to my north the median age is 55 as well.

If you're a widow or single and 65 you will clean up big time down here in person.
I meant that if there are schools about then that means there's a substantial population to support such schools right?

If there is a lopsided population that's mostly ageing as per ur contention then those schools will either close or be winded down, which is logical.

But if it's thriving then either u r lying or you just enjoy mingling around with oldies, which is of course ur choice.

However if I were you, I would definitely get off OLD apps since you can only find old farts online (who can't give 2 shiets abt you to begin with) AND then try to cultivate a social network.

Have you considered that option?
 

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How to do Tinder..
swipe right on all 18-20yo unless HB6- (you never know!)
swipe right on all 27-33yo unless HB7- (adjust based on your ideal dating range)
swipe left on all others
 

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I meant that if there are schools about then that means there's a substantial population to support such schools right?

If there is a lopsided population that's mostly ageing as per ur contention then those schools will either close or be winded down, which is logical.

But if it's thriving then either u r lying or you just enjoy mingling around with oldies, which is of course ur choice.

However if I were you, I would definitely get off OLD apps since you can only find old farts online (who can't give 2 shiets abt you to begin with) AND then try to cultivate a social network.

Have you considered that option?
I know my county laid off a few teachers and staff DESPITE it has grown, BUT it's been mostly 65 and over move here in bunches. When I moved here in 2015 there were less old people. I do notice more of them. I think my county is about 270k now. Hard to estimate because it's so seasonal. It has a total of 3 high schools. My local HS I think has about 900 students. I think we also have two middle schools but we have no private schools in my county.

Heck, the big 4 counties here in SWFL have seen huge population growth but the median age has rose by about 4 years in each county over the last 5 years.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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