ok ive got a girl i want to pursue. we have talked a few times at school and she seems cool. she actually talks to me. the thing is i only get to see her once a week in a class. the situation is shes a bit younger than me and i dont want to scare her off. would it be better for me to take some time to build rapport with her or straight up ask for her number?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
go for it or build rapport?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
No harm in asking for her number. Build a slight rapport over text, then ask to meet up. See where it goes from there. Be cool and don't make crazy future expectations and you'll be fine.
JohnChops
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Ask for her number .... Asking for her number is the only instant way to tell if she's attracted to you.
Start a small conversation and ask her for it... What's the big deal .
Start a small conversation and ask her for it... What's the big deal .
D.J. King Allister
Don Juan
Build rapport, then ask her for coffee or lunch. Afterwards, you get the number if you want. You need to do this the next time you see her, or it'll be get more complicated.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
shes the only one there who so far been willing to have longer than a 5 minute conversation with me lol. we talked about math stuff, where shes from, and i made her laugh a few times so thats a plus.omega05 said:
i really feel like this girl is out of my league...even though i dont believe in leagues, lets be realistic. she prolly has a bf. but i will try anyway.:box: