ok ive got a girl i want to pursue. we have talked a few times at school and she seems cool. she actually talks to me. the thing is i only get to see her once a week in a class. the situation is shes a bit younger than me and i dont want to scare her off. would it be better for me to take some time to build rapport with her or straight up ask for her number?
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
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go for it or build rapport?
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VladPatton
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No harm in asking for her number. Build a slight rapport over text, then ask to meet up. See where it goes from there. Be cool and don't make crazy future expectations and you'll be fine.
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Ask for her number .... Asking for her number is the only instant way to tell if she's attracted to you.
Start a small conversation and ask her for it... What's the big deal .
Start a small conversation and ask her for it... What's the big deal .
D.J. King Allister
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Build rapport, then ask her for coffee or lunch. Afterwards, you get the number if you want. You need to do this the next time you see her, or it'll be get more complicated.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
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shes the only one there who so far been willing to have longer than a 5 minute conversation with me lol. we talked about math stuff, where shes from, and i made her laugh a few times so thats a plus.omega05 said:
i really feel like this girl is out of my league...even though i dont believe in leagues, lets be realistic. she prolly has a bf. but i will try anyway.:box: