ok ive got a girl i want to pursue. we have talked a few times at school and she seems cool. she actually talks to me. the thing is i only get to see her once a week in a class. the situation is shes a bit younger than me and i dont want to scare her off. would it be better for me to take some time to build rapport with her or straight up ask for her number?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
go for it or build rapport?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
No harm in asking for her number. Build a slight rapport over text, then ask to meet up. See where it goes from there. Be cool and don't make crazy future expectations and you'll be fine.
JohnChops
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Ask for her number .... Asking for her number is the only instant way to tell if she's attracted to you.
Start a small conversation and ask her for it... What's the big deal .
Start a small conversation and ask her for it... What's the big deal .
D.J. King Allister
Don Juan
Build rapport, then ask her for coffee or lunch. Afterwards, you get the number if you want. You need to do this the next time you see her, or it'll be get more complicated.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
shes the only one there who so far been willing to have longer than a 5 minute conversation with me lol. we talked about math stuff, where shes from, and i made her laugh a few times so thats a plus.omega05 said:
i really feel like this girl is out of my league...even though i dont believe in leagues, lets be realistic. she prolly has a bf. but i will try anyway.:box: