ok ive got a girl i want to pursue. we have talked a few times at school and she seems cool. she actually talks to me. the thing is i only get to see her once a week in a class. the situation is shes a bit younger than me and i dont want to scare her off. would it be better for me to take some time to build rapport with her or straight up ask for her number?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
go for it or build rapport?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
No harm in asking for her number. Build a slight rapport over text, then ask to meet up. See where it goes from there. Be cool and don't make crazy future expectations and you'll be fine.
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Ask for her number .... Asking for her number is the only instant way to tell if she's attracted to you.
Start a small conversation and ask her for it... What's the big deal .
Start a small conversation and ask her for it... What's the big deal .
D.J. King Allister
Don Juan
Build rapport, then ask her for coffee or lunch. Afterwards, you get the number if you want. You need to do this the next time you see her, or it'll be get more complicated.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
shes the only one there who so far been willing to have longer than a 5 minute conversation with me lol. we talked about math stuff, where shes from, and i made her laugh a few times so thats a plus.omega05 said:
i really feel like this girl is out of my league...even though i dont believe in leagues, lets be realistic. she prolly has a bf. but i will try anyway.:box: