"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl wouldn't slow dance with me - problems?

SteviaTears

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Long time lurker here.

I've been dating this dime for 6 weeks now. She was in my year in college but wouldn't look at me. Over the holidays I went on a course of Stevia (it works guys) and became a dime pulla. Eventually I won her.

Last night I took her to Hollywood Bowl and at the end of the night I asked the DJ to play Aerosmith "Dont wanna miss a thing". He did it but she refused to slow dance with me. She said she was embarrassed. ***** girlfriend was a *****.

Have I blown this? I had my hair styled to a blowout to please her, let her dress me in the latest BWS fashion and still get treated like a KKM.

Help me fellas.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SteviaTears

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Thats not very helpful Sugarfoot. I'm feeling really emotional.

I've been eating IrishCream Ice cream and I'm putting on weight thinking of this. She's gonna feel the wrath of my angry inch.
 

Jean Valjean

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SteviaTears said:
Thats not very helpful Sugarfoot. I'm feeling really emotional.

I've been eating IrishCream Ice cream and I'm putting on weight thinking of this. She's gonna feel the wrath of my angry inch.

steviatears

you had to win her over etc etc

I don't think the attraction is there for her

she might have been embarrassed to be seen with you

go NC make her win you back, if she displays lackluster interest it means you are not worth it to her ... just a bud

next her then
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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horaholic

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Fake girls, that trolls make up.
 

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I had my hair styled to a blowout to please her, let her dress me in the latest BWS fashion and still get treated like a KKM.
Changing your style to suite her demonstrated submissiveness. If one of your male friends said :

"Dude, I only hang out with guys who wear sweater vests", would you go upstairs and find a sweater vest?

He did it but she refused to slow dance with me. She said she was embarrassed.
Did you ASK to dance? Bad move, should have grabbed her hand and proceeded to dance floor. Thus, demonstrating a sense of adventure.
Which is very attractive.

Have I blown this?
Probably not. Your behavior didn't seem TOO bad, made a few mistakes but we all do. You'll know if she contacts you. If not, move on and don't dwell on it.
 

Tyson420

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He was probably like...

"May I have this dance?"

Atleast I hope not. Next time go, "Yo let's go dance."
 
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