"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl told me she was gonna call me today at 4pm

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Emperiorjack

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its now 7:08pm. What should I do should I call her and tell her she better sharpin up if she wants to be with me. Or just ignore it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hot tip: don't go waiting around for girls to call you.

If she were interested, she would call. No, she wasn't attacked by a pack of wolves, and yes, your phone is still working no need to call Sprint. Just get busy my man.
 

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forget it, when she does call or when you see her..act bigger and better. don't give her the time of day for that first interaction..then wait a few days to either have her contact you or u can contact her again and kinda start overr. you'll be fine
 

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If she were interested, she would call. No, she wasn't attacked by a pack of wolves, and yes, your phone is still working no need to call Sprint. Just get busy my man. [/B]
Hmmm. I see your point but she did instant message me today around 12pm saying "Good Afternoon!" Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
 

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Originally posted by shark
forget it, when she does call or when you see her..act bigger and better. don't give her the time of day for that first interaction..then wait a few days to either have her contact you or u can contact her again and kinda start overr. you'll be fine
Cool Ill go with this route sounds pretty good.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Gonzalo

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I see what you're saying, but getting in the position of having to wait for their calls is usually not good, cause it leaves you nowhere to grab from. Next time just say something like "no, I'll call you when I'm done bla" or something.

Use this opportunity to call up some other girl.
 

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Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Hmmm. I see your point but she did instant message me today around 12pm saying "Good Afternoon!" Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
Either that or you are too scared to go out and have some fun yourself because you may miss her call. She's only several hours late...
 

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Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.

Lesson: always have a back up plan.
 

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Originally posted by Bradshaw
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.

Lesson: always have a back up plan.
I did/do this all the time, i usually schedule 2 dates, one that I know will go through and one that i really wanted to go on.
 

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forget it kid, she played you.

Dont call her neither if u gonna do that, wait a week or so, and dont mention nothing to her , just try to set a date up if she refuses, automaticly 100% forget her
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Bradshaw
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.

Lesson: always have a back up plan.
I did/do this all the time, i usually schedule 2 dates, one that I know will go through and one that i really wanted to go on.
 

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Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
Keep tellin yourself that. :yawn:
 

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Originally posted by Plain & Simple
forget it kid, she played you.

Dont call her neither if u gonna do that, wait a week or so, and dont mention nothing to her , just try to set a date up if she refuses, automaticly 100% forget her
No, if she was that specific, something must have come up. Don't get worried about it, but assume the best, make sure that you have something important to do adn then either catch up with her later or move on to the next chick.
 

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WTF!!!!! WHY CANT WE START TEACHING BOYS HOW TO BE MEN, BEFORE GIVING THEM THESE TIPS. I mean, what the fvck, I am still new to this site, but come on, if she didnt call you back, go fvck another girl, its okay, there is nothing wrong wit you, you are still the prize, go, go, go, go, go, go, what the fvck, I hate this site, and if you dont like what I just said fvck you too.
 

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This is just stupid.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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