Emperiorjack
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its now 7:08pm. What should I do should I call her and tell her she better sharpin up if she wants to be with me. Or just ignore it.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hmmm. I see your point but she did instant message me today around 12pm saying "Good Afternoon!" Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.If she were interested, she would call. No, she wasn't attacked by a pack of wolves, and yes, your phone is still working no need to call Sprint. Just get busy my man. [/B]
Cool Ill go with this route sounds pretty good.Originally posted by shark
forget it, when she does call or when you see her..act bigger and better. don't give her the time of day for that first interaction..then wait a few days to either have her contact you or u can contact her again and kinda start overr. you'll be fine
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Either that or you are too scared to go out and have some fun yourself because you may miss her call. She's only several hours late...Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Hmmm. I see your point but she did instant message me today around 12pm saying "Good Afternoon!" Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
I did/do this all the time, i usually schedule 2 dates, one that I know will go through and one that i really wanted to go on.Originally posted by Bradshaw
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.
Lesson: always have a back up plan.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I did/do this all the time, i usually schedule 2 dates, one that I know will go through and one that i really wanted to go on.Originally posted by Bradshaw
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.
Lesson: always have a back up plan.
Keep tellin yourself that. :yawn:Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
No, if she was that specific, something must have come up. Don't get worried about it, but assume the best, make sure that you have something important to do adn then either catch up with her later or move on to the next chick.Originally posted by Plain & Simple
forget it kid, she played you.
Dont call her neither if u gonna do that, wait a week or so, and dont mention nothing to her , just try to set a date up if she refuses, automaticly 100% forget her
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.