Emperiorjack
Don Juan
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its now 7:08pm. What should I do should I call her and tell her she better sharpin up if she wants to be with me. Or just ignore it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hmmm. I see your point but she did instant message me today around 12pm saying "Good Afternoon!" Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.If she were interested, she would call. No, she wasn't attacked by a pack of wolves, and yes, your phone is still working no need to call Sprint. Just get busy my man. [/B]
Cool Ill go with this route sounds pretty good.Originally posted by shark
forget it, when she does call or when you see her..act bigger and better. don't give her the time of day for that first interaction..then wait a few days to either have her contact you or u can contact her again and kinda start overr. you'll be fine
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Either that or you are too scared to go out and have some fun yourself because you may miss her call. She's only several hours late...Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Hmmm. I see your point but she did instant message me today around 12pm saying "Good Afternoon!" Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
I did/do this all the time, i usually schedule 2 dates, one that I know will go through and one that i really wanted to go on.Originally posted by Bradshaw
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.
Lesson: always have a back up plan.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I did/do this all the time, i usually schedule 2 dates, one that I know will go through and one that i really wanted to go on.Originally posted by Bradshaw
or she may have had you as a back up plan in case her initial plans didn't work out. Harsh yes, but true in most cases.
Lesson: always have a back up plan.
Keep tellin yourself that. :yawn:Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Im thinking she's just too scared to call me up.
No, if she was that specific, something must have come up. Don't get worried about it, but assume the best, make sure that you have something important to do adn then either catch up with her later or move on to the next chick.Originally posted by Plain & Simple
forget it kid, she played you.
Dont call her neither if u gonna do that, wait a week or so, and dont mention nothing to her , just try to set a date up if she refuses, automaticly 100% forget her
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.