"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl says she used to be addicted to heroine

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tryst type said:
She's been 6 months clean. Should I stay clear?
Ever watch Requiem For A Dream?

Do you ever think what this girl must have done to obtain the junk?
 

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I would. I mean, you dont wanna judge her as a person...who knows what she's been through...but still, with something like heroin, I'd steer clear. Opiate addictions have a very high relapse rate.
 

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expos said:
Ever watch Requiem For A Dream?

Do you ever think what this girl must have done to obtain the junk?

Wow very true! And according to her she only ever used clean needles/never hated and has been tested since.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.


but 6 months isn't long enough. i wouldn't date a chick that doesn't have a year clean .
 

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I just wonder how easy it is for a recovering heroine addict to relapse if they ever do.
 

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backbreaker said:
i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.

Could you explain why?
 

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backbreaker said:
i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.
This is fvcking retarded.

On another note, does your past drug addiction explain your lack of proper punctuation, backbreaker? Maybe your brain shrank?

OP.....steer clear. Let another ex-drug addict share sex fluids with this broad.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I know a girl like that, incredibly beautiful and a complete psycho. I know her history, but they still line up.....

She stabbed one of her boyfriend's ex's just recently. complete train wreck. she might be clean but they never change. The madness is there just under the surface bubbling away ready for the next eruption.
 

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There HAS to be better options Tryst.

Why bother?
She seemed cool and we were hitting it off pretty well, which is why she felt she should be honest about her past.

She says it was after a breakup and it was because she was young and depressed.
 

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tryst type said:
She seemed cool and we were hitting it off pretty well, which is why she felt she should be honest about her past.

She says it was after a breakup and it was because she was young and depressed.
really?

did she tell you about the 10 dudes who ran a train on her while she was using?

no

didn't think so.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tryst type said:
Could you explain why?

part of NA is to help get off drugs, but the main jist of NA is to show you how to live like a well adjusted member of society. most of the time the **** you talk about in NA has nothing whatsoever to do with drugs.

today's topic for instance was gratitude. being grateful. how many times do you come here on this forum and talk about ungrateful *****es lol? *****es that ain't grateful for ****.

a woman who is seriously working a program is going to understand things like tolerance, acceptance, patience, empathy, how to deal with haters, how to deal with success, how to deal with failure, w hat is and what is not a normal sex life, self reliance, gratitude, that a lot of skanks you deal with aren't going to have, or better stated, don't have a program where you go and work on these things everyday or most days.


I'll say this, I've been in NA/AA for 8 years. there are plenty of people who I know who hooked up and got married in NA/AA and i don't know one that's divorced. okay i take that back one lol. one dude but seriously dude has issues i don't blame the chick.

if something were to happen to my wife i would have no qualms in the least bit in dating or even marrying if the right one came along a recovering drug addict under the assumption hat they are seriously working their program.

but that's not something you can tell in 6 months.

the only thing is trying to find one without bagage like kids or ****. that's pretty hard lol. but i'd have no problem at all dating a recovering addict if they were doing what they were supposed to do.

siht, I'm a recovering addict and all things considered, i'm a tad arrogant at times, i can ramble but for the most part there is nothing about my life today that would make you assume i used to do hard drugs.


Now with all that said, i will tell you like I tell my male sponsees. she's probably going to relapse. that's just pure statistics. But generally if a person can make it a year without doing drugs and you can honestly see the change in your life they have a pretty good chance to stay clean.

If you really like her keep her around but don't' commit to anything until you see what's seriously up. some addicts like to replace sex with drugs / relationships with drugs and if that's what she is trying to do you haven't seen the depths of hellt hat this girl can take you to lol. but if she is really clean and is trying to change she could be catch.
 

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Tryst, dont.

Addicts can be great people once clean, but I'm telling you, opiate addictions have an extremely high relapse rate. She may never relapse, but she just as likely may.

Also a good point was made about the underlying psychological pathology in many addicts. I'm sure BB will flame me for this but in my personal experience with addicts/alcoholics, there are some underlying personality dysfunctions there that dont ever truly go away. Of course, many get clean and live prosperous, productive lives and help a lot of individuals. So I am generalizing. I just think when you are this early in the dating stage with a RECENT opiate addict, why risk it? Do you want her to bring your life down with her if she slips?
 

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I'd go with absolutely not. I stopped a heroin user and she gave me her i.d. She was absolutely beautiful in the picture but looked like a zombie in person. She also prostituted herself so she could retain such a habit.
 
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if you end up with her have her tested for stds.
Well yeah, but how is anyone going to pull this off?

"Hey, I like you, but could you take a drug test before we have sex?"

Sure.

The fact is that you contract a virus through blood to blood contact; the people with the most blood to blood contact are intravenous drug users and people that have unprotected anal sex. Sure, she'll say she's never shared a needle, but I have a lifetime of experiences where people have lied to me for no reason, other than that it benefited them in some way.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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