tryst type
Master Don Juan
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- Oct 13, 2007
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She's been 6 months clean. Should I stay clear?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Can you say AIDS?tryst type said:She's been 6 months clean. Should I stay clear?
Ever watch Requiem For A Dream?tryst type said:She's been 6 months clean. Should I stay clear?
expos said:Ever watch Requiem For A Dream?
Do you ever think what this girl must have done to obtain the junk?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backbreaker said:i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.
This is fvcking retarded.backbreaker said:i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She seemed cool and we were hitting it off pretty well, which is why she felt she should be honest about her past.Slickster said:There HAS to be better options Tryst.
Why bother?
really?tryst type said:She seemed cool and we were hitting it off pretty well, which is why she felt she should be honest about her past.
She says it was after a breakup and it was because she was young and depressed.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
tryst type said:Could you explain why?
if you end up with her have her tested for stds.Bokanovsky said:Can you say AIDS?
Well yeah, but how is anyone going to pull this off?visions said:if you end up with her have her tested for stds.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.